What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I'm in florida but complaint was filed in georgia.
Well I was contacted via email by a detective from Warner Robins Georgia stating that an harassment complaint had been filed by one of my Ex. Girlfriends that I recently found on facebook after almost 16 years.
Anyway's I'll try and get to the point. I contacted her after not seeing her for 16 years as I have always wondered if she might have possibly had my child years ago as the last time I saw her we had got into verbal fight and broke up well I picked her up out of anger and carried her outside to tell her to go as I could take no more. Well as I was carrying her she said I was hurting her stomach and then just blurted out "The baby".
Well that was one of the last things I ever heard from her until I finally found her all these years later on facebook. I contacted her and she eventually contacted me back after I tried to contact one of her old friends to see if maybe she could tell me something since I did not here from her at first.
Well we messaged back and forth a few times and she even got to the point of being friendly and even made a comment to me about her breaking up with her fiance. I still don't quite understand why she bothered to tell me that but anyways I told her that I thought it would be nice if we could be friends again that I would like that.
And she seemed to be ok with that until I started asking her things about our past then she started acting strange and defensive and even flat out denying of things that happened in the past.
Well when I started really asking her about the time that she made the comment about being pregnant she really started acting defensive and completely denying every thing that had happened such as her comment about being pregnant and the fact that she and I were trying to conceive a child. She even went as far as saying that she never wanted a child then and that I used protection at all times which is a complete fabrication on her part. Of course that bothered me and I questioned her of the complete denial on her part as at the time, I could not bring my self to understand why she would do such a thing.
Needless to say after I brought up such things and brought up past sexual experiences that pertained to the whole matter she finally sent me a message saying I was sick and that she did not want to here from me again.
Well the very next day I sent her one last message stating that I was sorry that I ever found her again as it only made things worse and I did not get any answers that I had sought for for 16 years and that I was just upset that she thought of me in the way that she did ,as to call me sick. I told her that I had given up on trying to talk to her and that I was not going to contact her again, as a matter of fact the letter before that was stating that I had given up on trying to talk to her as I could see that she would not allow it to go anywares as she had secrets that she wanted to keep about the past, What ever that might be.
I then get a message from her Ex. Husband calling me a Rapist among other things which really upset me as I could only assume that she must have said some awful lies about me for him to say such things to me he also said she was very scared of me. What?
Then he said that a police report had been filed with my info. Well needless to say I was then very upset with the things he accused me of as he had no right to say such things. But what makes it worse is that she is the one that put him up to it and he just thought that he was protecting his ex wife from some horrible man from her past.
Well needless to say she made a report stating that I harassed her for which I don't see it that way at all. I never said anything to scare her or any lies or threats I only stated how I felt and asked her what happened all those years ago, as It has haunted me for almost 16 years not knowing what really happened. Me bringing up the past was apparently to much for her to handle and I did not expect that from her I only wanted to finally try and find out what actually did happen. I felt I deserved to know and it has been a worry for me for a very long time.
The point is this Det. emails me after almost 3 weeks stating that she was informing me of the harassment report that had been filled against me to contact her. Well I did not get the message until like 10-11 pm after her work hours. Well one of her contacts were her email so I responded by email and tried to explain my side of the story and to show that I did not harass her and only asked her some personal questions about our past. That I also on more than one occasion suggested to my Ex that if she did not want to talk to me or here from me that all she had to do is block me on facebook , as it is as simple as clicking a button I even explained to her how to do it.
And this was all before she sent her message saying I was sick and to not message her anymore.
So I ask why she just did not block me from the start rather than blow things way out of proportion and demonize me just to hide from her past and to go and file a complaint against me with the police.
I don't get it unless she just wanted to get back at me for god knows what I guess bringing up the past. Well I got off track the detective responds back this morning ridiculing me for sending in her words a"LENGTHY" email yes the detective even put in bold print the word lengthy, as if I did something wrong by trying to defend my self and sending her copies of some of the messages that were sent back and forth between us.
The detective even told me I was jumping to conclusions that were not true. As if she knows all.. Well I'm sorry but I think she is biased against me and her actions showed that not to mention the Detective is a female on top of it all.
So do you think she would believe a thing I would say? My question is what should I do about this matter as I don't feel comfortable even talking to this detective after her email response back to me. She states that I need to contact her by phone or provide her with my phone number.
Can I just ignore this detective as I don't see that I have done any type of harassment and I did respond by email, for which I got ridiculed for as if I did something wrong by emailing her after hours and trying to explain that I did nothing wrong in my eyes,
and that I also have no intention on contacting my ex ever again after what she has done and shown me what she is capable of as far as lying and her disregard for me in general. What are my options? and sorry for rambling on so long as I'm not good at putting my thoughts down on paper so to speak.. Thank you for any advise.
P.S. I received another email from the Detective telling me that I have until Monday to contact her that no formal charges have been filed. Why am I obligated to even call this Det. even though no charges have been filed. I can pretty much guess that the detective wants to talk to me so she can just say don't message her again for which I have already made that clear to both the detective and the person whom filed the Harassment complaint.
My whole point is that I don't feel like I have done any type of harassment at all by asking my ex personal questions about the past which involved both of us. And I think that what I asked is a legitimate and important question for someone to ask "if they were indeed pregnant back then" And if so what happened I think that is a justifiable question of me to ask that is not harassment, But a serious question.
What are my options here and what entails cyber harassment because every thing I have read so far does not show that I have done anything wrong or harassing. As she asked me to stop writing her then I sent one last message confirming that I would indeed not contact her any farther but she had already reported me by that point.
As her Ex husband sent me an ugly letter stating that I had been reported to the police among some other awful things he accused me of being. She even 2 days prior to that said that she never said we could not be friends in response to a message I sent her stating that I felt like she did not want to talk to me. Then 2 days before that she was telling me how she just dumped her fiance of 4 years. Talking about mixed messages!!! Well any help would be greatly appreciated as far as my options..... Thank you
Well I was contacted via email by a detective from Warner Robins Georgia stating that an harassment complaint had been filed by one of my Ex. Girlfriends that I recently found on facebook after almost 16 years.
Anyway's I'll try and get to the point. I contacted her after not seeing her for 16 years as I have always wondered if she might have possibly had my child years ago as the last time I saw her we had got into verbal fight and broke up well I picked her up out of anger and carried her outside to tell her to go as I could take no more. Well as I was carrying her she said I was hurting her stomach and then just blurted out "The baby".
Well that was one of the last things I ever heard from her until I finally found her all these years later on facebook. I contacted her and she eventually contacted me back after I tried to contact one of her old friends to see if maybe she could tell me something since I did not here from her at first.
Well we messaged back and forth a few times and she even got to the point of being friendly and even made a comment to me about her breaking up with her fiance. I still don't quite understand why she bothered to tell me that but anyways I told her that I thought it would be nice if we could be friends again that I would like that.
And she seemed to be ok with that until I started asking her things about our past then she started acting strange and defensive and even flat out denying of things that happened in the past.
Well when I started really asking her about the time that she made the comment about being pregnant she really started acting defensive and completely denying every thing that had happened such as her comment about being pregnant and the fact that she and I were trying to conceive a child. She even went as far as saying that she never wanted a child then and that I used protection at all times which is a complete fabrication on her part. Of course that bothered me and I questioned her of the complete denial on her part as at the time, I could not bring my self to understand why she would do such a thing.
Needless to say after I brought up such things and brought up past sexual experiences that pertained to the whole matter she finally sent me a message saying I was sick and that she did not want to here from me again.
Well the very next day I sent her one last message stating that I was sorry that I ever found her again as it only made things worse and I did not get any answers that I had sought for for 16 years and that I was just upset that she thought of me in the way that she did ,as to call me sick. I told her that I had given up on trying to talk to her and that I was not going to contact her again, as a matter of fact the letter before that was stating that I had given up on trying to talk to her as I could see that she would not allow it to go anywares as she had secrets that she wanted to keep about the past, What ever that might be.
I then get a message from her Ex. Husband calling me a Rapist among other things which really upset me as I could only assume that she must have said some awful lies about me for him to say such things to me he also said she was very scared of me. What?
Then he said that a police report had been filed with my info. Well needless to say I was then very upset with the things he accused me of as he had no right to say such things. But what makes it worse is that she is the one that put him up to it and he just thought that he was protecting his ex wife from some horrible man from her past.
Well needless to say she made a report stating that I harassed her for which I don't see it that way at all. I never said anything to scare her or any lies or threats I only stated how I felt and asked her what happened all those years ago, as It has haunted me for almost 16 years not knowing what really happened. Me bringing up the past was apparently to much for her to handle and I did not expect that from her I only wanted to finally try and find out what actually did happen. I felt I deserved to know and it has been a worry for me for a very long time.
The point is this Det. emails me after almost 3 weeks stating that she was informing me of the harassment report that had been filled against me to contact her. Well I did not get the message until like 10-11 pm after her work hours. Well one of her contacts were her email so I responded by email and tried to explain my side of the story and to show that I did not harass her and only asked her some personal questions about our past. That I also on more than one occasion suggested to my Ex that if she did not want to talk to me or here from me that all she had to do is block me on facebook , as it is as simple as clicking a button I even explained to her how to do it.
And this was all before she sent her message saying I was sick and to not message her anymore.
So I ask why she just did not block me from the start rather than blow things way out of proportion and demonize me just to hide from her past and to go and file a complaint against me with the police.
I don't get it unless she just wanted to get back at me for god knows what I guess bringing up the past. Well I got off track the detective responds back this morning ridiculing me for sending in her words a"LENGTHY" email yes the detective even put in bold print the word lengthy, as if I did something wrong by trying to defend my self and sending her copies of some of the messages that were sent back and forth between us.
The detective even told me I was jumping to conclusions that were not true. As if she knows all.. Well I'm sorry but I think she is biased against me and her actions showed that not to mention the Detective is a female on top of it all.
So do you think she would believe a thing I would say? My question is what should I do about this matter as I don't feel comfortable even talking to this detective after her email response back to me. She states that I need to contact her by phone or provide her with my phone number.
Can I just ignore this detective as I don't see that I have done any type of harassment and I did respond by email, for which I got ridiculed for as if I did something wrong by emailing her after hours and trying to explain that I did nothing wrong in my eyes,
and that I also have no intention on contacting my ex ever again after what she has done and shown me what she is capable of as far as lying and her disregard for me in general. What are my options? and sorry for rambling on so long as I'm not good at putting my thoughts down on paper so to speak.. Thank you for any advise.
P.S. I received another email from the Detective telling me that I have until Monday to contact her that no formal charges have been filed. Why am I obligated to even call this Det. even though no charges have been filed. I can pretty much guess that the detective wants to talk to me so she can just say don't message her again for which I have already made that clear to both the detective and the person whom filed the Harassment complaint.
My whole point is that I don't feel like I have done any type of harassment at all by asking my ex personal questions about the past which involved both of us. And I think that what I asked is a legitimate and important question for someone to ask "if they were indeed pregnant back then" And if so what happened I think that is a justifiable question of me to ask that is not harassment, But a serious question.
What are my options here and what entails cyber harassment because every thing I have read so far does not show that I have done anything wrong or harassing. As she asked me to stop writing her then I sent one last message confirming that I would indeed not contact her any farther but she had already reported me by that point.
As her Ex husband sent me an ugly letter stating that I had been reported to the police among some other awful things he accused me of being. She even 2 days prior to that said that she never said we could not be friends in response to a message I sent her stating that I felt like she did not want to talk to me. Then 2 days before that she was telling me how she just dumped her fiance of 4 years. Talking about mixed messages!!! Well any help would be greatly appreciated as far as my options..... Thank you
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