Very deprssd and scared over situation

[Worriednconfusd]

Hello, I have been through alot of agony and pain over a previous relationship. My ex says he is going to sue me for defamation when really I didn't do anything to him. Back in may I was in a vulnerable state of emotions. My mom was sick and my friend was suffering from cancer. I was heavely drinking and I suffer from mild bipolar and severe anxiety and depression. A guy decided to take advantage of me by sleeping with me and messing with my mind. He made me think he loved me and promised alot. The next day he got back with his ex and told me I was crazy and he didn't want me. I went weka later for a STD check up and my HIV and herpes test were mailed to me. The tests were negative but because I was drinking alot and suffers from a broken heart i read the ranges wrong. I texts him repeadedly to please go get tested with me and he ignored me and told me o was crazy. He basicaly made me go crazy by the way he treated me. He gave his gf my cell numberand text me threats and told me I was crazy. He blocked me. So I emailed his gf since she gave me her email and I told her I was going to tale him to court for giving me something he knew he had. She said terrible things to me and cald me crazy. Then she gave my email to her friend and she emailed me and told me to go get testd. For bipolar disorder, being disociative, and depress because he told her I had " certain conditions". I emailed her and told her I was going to kill myself if he gave me aids. I told her I was going to kill myself and everyone that knew me would know why because he gave me a disease and doesn't care. My friend who's mom is a lawyer told me basically I was defamed by him becAuse he brought his gf into it and gave her my cell number and told them my mental problems. Then his gf giving my email to her friend and telling the friend I'm crazy. So who was defamed here? Thanks for your help!

[>Charlotte<]

This is nothing more than a huge, childish, he-said-she-said-did-not-did-too dramafest.

Just stop the drama, don't contact any of them anymore, ignore them if they contact you, and this will all go away.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Worriednconfusd

Hello, I have been through alot of agony and pain over a previous relationship. My ex says he is going to sue me for defamation when really I didn't do anything to him. Back in may I was in a vulnerable state of emotions. My mom was sick and my friend was suffering from cancer. I was heavely drinking and I suffer from mild bipolar and severe anxiety and depression. A guy decided to take advantage of me by sleeping with me and messing with my mind. He made me think he loved me and promised alot. The next day he got back with his ex and told me I was crazy and he didn't want me. I went weka later for a STD check up and my HIV and herpes test were mailed to me. The tests were negative but because I was drinking alot and suffers from a broken heart i read the ranges wrong. I texts him repeadedly to please go get tested with me and he ignored me and told me o was crazy. He basicaly made me go crazy by the way he treated me. He gave his gf my cell numberand text me threats and told me I was crazy. He blocked me. So I emailed his gf since she gave me her email and I told her I was going to tale him to court for giving me something he knew he had. She said terrible things to me and cald me crazy. Then she gave my email to her friend and she emailed me and told me to go get testd. For bipolar disorder, being disociative, and depress because he told her I had " certain conditions". I emailed her and told her I was going to kill myself if he gave me aids. I told her I was going to kill myself and everyone that knew me would know why because he gave me a disease and doesn't care.

My friend who's mom is a lawyer told me basically I was defamed by him becAuse he brought his gf into it and gave her my cell number and told them my mental problems. Then his gf giving my email to her friend and telling the friend I'm crazy. So who was defamed here? Thanks for your help!

You need far more help than can be provided here - are you seeing a counselor?

[quincy]

If you falsely informed the guy you slept with that you had tested positive for an STD (because you were drinking a lot and read the test results wrong) and you, in addition, falsely told the guy's girlfriend that the guy gave you an STD, then you have defamed him. Falsely accusing someone of having a sexually transmitted disease is defamatory.

If you suffer from bipolar and depressive illnesses, the telling of this to others would be true and, therefore, not defamatory. The guy you slept with has not defamed you. Passing this information on to others, however, could be an invasion of your privacy (disclosure of private facts), unless you have freely disclosed your bipolar, anxiety and depressive conditions to others (which I suspect is the case).

I agree with Dogmatique that you need to see a counselor. And, if you are served with a complaint for defamation (unlikely although potentially possible), you should see an attorney.

Good luck.

[Worriednconfusd]

Basically he defamed himself by bringing his gf into it. I tryed to keep it between me and him by talking and texting him but he had to be A big baby and have his gf protect h by texting me and harrassing me by rubbing in my face I'm crazy. Basically he would be the one in jail if it came to it because he took advantage of my mental status. And used me for sex an then rubbed it in My face. He told a bunch of people in town I was easy and a crazy person. O can't even go out in public because people make fun of me. I live in a small town. He moved away to another city close by. He caused me to almost tale my life several times. All I was asking him to do was go get tests with me to ease my mind and he ran making me think he had something and was running from the fact. He liked messing with my mind because he knew he could. If anything he will be in jail if he pursues this. Like I said he brought other people into our business. I never told anyone he knew what we were discussing. He brought this on himself. This happened almost 4 months ago. No lawyer is going to bother because it's been months. It didn't just happen yesturday. He's a big baby! He's cruel and he almost got me killed. I took half a bottle of polkas with liquor ecause he has made me hate myself and made others hate me with false statemts. I never let anyone know about myental status and thanks to him most of the town thinks on crazy. I had to quit my 6 year job and hide because of him. What I'm scares about is if he accidently shows the wrong person our conversation and they think he has aids or sething and kills him o don't want to be blamed because I deleted our conversation and email account. My friends mom who is a lawyer told me that I he shows it off or his gf shows the emails with his name and mine and our conversation that he's defaming me and himself and that of he gets harmed it's not one because I never showed anyone our conersation. Only 3 people including me were involved on the conversation because he brought them into it. Should o not worry? I'm scared of goin to jail because I have really done no harm. He has caused me so much agony and heartache and ATM I still feel suicidal.

[cyjeff]

Originally Posted by Worriednconfusd

Basically he defamed himself by bringing his gf into it. I tryed to keep it between me and him by talking and texting him but he had to be A big baby and have his gf protect h by texting me and harrassing me by rubbing in my face I'm crazy. Basically he would be the one in jail if it came to it because he took advantage of my mental status. And used me for sex an then rubbed it in My face. He told a bunch of people in town I was easy and a crazy person. O can't even go out in public because people make fun of me. I live in a small town. He moved away to another city close by. He caused me to almost tale my life several times. All I was asking him to do was go get tests with me to ease my mind and he ran making me think he had something and was running from the fact. He liked messing with my mind because he knew he could. If anything he will be in jail if he pursues this. Like I said he brought other people into our business. I never told anyone he knew what we were discussing. He brought this on himself. This happened almost 4 months ago. No lawyer is going to bother because it's been months. It didn't just happen yesturday. He's a big baby! He's cruel and he almost got me killed. I took half a bottle of polkas with liquor ecause he has made me hate myself and made others hate me with false statemts. I never let anyone know about myental status and thanks to him most of the town thinks on crazy. I had to quit my 6 year job and hide because of him. What I'm scares about is if he accidently shows the wrong person our conversation and they think he has aids or sething and kills him o don't want to be blamed because I deleted our conversation and email account. My friends mom who is a lawyer told me that I he shows it off or his gf shows the emails with his name and mine and our conversation that he's defaming me and himself and that of he gets harmed it's not one because I never showed anyone our conersation. Only 3 people including me were involved on the conversation because he brought them into it. Should o not worry? I'm scared of goin to jail because I have really done no harm. He has caused me so much agony and heartache and ATM I still feel suicidal.

Okay.....

Really, seek help.

And, apparently, stay away from polkas.

You cannot defame yourself.

[Worriednconfusd]

Lol I meant pills and why do I need help?because he ruined my life? He saying I defamed him whenbje made alot of people hate me. What I was trying to say was I did nothing to this SOB , he brought people into our discussion and he's tryin. To say I defamed him. Ha! What a big baby! What scares me is what my friend brought to my attention. Hebtold me that if my ex gets harmed or killed because Him or his gf shows our conversations between us that I would be held for murder? WTF? Or is he pulling my leg? I deleted all our conversations and even changed my phone number and email to get him out of my life. I didn't hurt him in any way, he hurt me!

[cyjeff]

Originally Posted by Worriednconfusd

Lol I meant pills and why do I need help?because he ruined my life? He saying I defamed him whenbje made alot of people hate me. What I was trying to say was I did nothing to this SOB , he brought people into our discussion and he's tryin. To say I defamed him. Ha! What a big baby! What scares me is what my friend brought to my attention. Hebtold me that if my ex gets harmed or killed because Him or his gf shows our conversations between us that I would be held for murder? WTF? Or is he pulling my leg? I deleted all our conversations and even changed my phone number and email to get him out of my life. I didn't hurt him in any way, he hurt me!

Oh please.

Drama ... drama... drama.

If people don't do what you want you will commit suicide. If he doesn't do what you want he is a big baby. You are so heartbroken that anything you do is okay and anything he does is terrible.

You need to get over yourself.

If you tell stories about other people when they are false, you expose yourself to legal trouble. He can tell anyone he wants the truth.

If your friend's mom thinks you have a case, hire her. Otherwise, go away.

[Worriednconfusd]

I didn't tell people stories about him. It was between me and him and he brought people into it. He lied and tol people I was crazy and had certain serious illnesses. I didn't defame him in any way. If he's dumb enough to bring other people onto a conversation that's not my fault. Yes he is a bog baby becase he always runs from his proba and has others fight forbhim. He brought his gf in it because he was afraid. He took advantage of me becase I was unstable. He will be the one in jail. I did nothing to the *******. Nobody has answered my question yet. If he is dumb enough to show other people our conversation about me misunderstanding my test results and me thinking he gve me aids or herpes and someone hurts him or kills him because they read it. That's not on me he and his gf show it around? My friend said I would be held for murder? There's no way because I have been working seven days a week for the last three months and haven't shows anyone our conversation. I deleted my email and changed numbers. I just want my mins at ease so I can relax. Would I Bevin trouble ? This guy has ruined my life and made me hate myself. I feel like I'm going to go to jail when I was the victim here.

[Blue Meanie]

Either control your language or your posts will be reported to admin.

[cyjeff]

Originally Posted by Worriednconfusd

I didn't tell people stories about him. It was between me and him and he brought people into it. He lied and tol people I was crazy and had certain serious illnesses. I didn't defame him in any way. If he's dumb enough to bring other people onto a conversation that's not my fault. Yes he is a bog baby becase he always runs from his proba and has others fight forbhim. He brought his gf in it because he was afraid. He took advantage of me becase I was unstable. He will be the one in jail. I did nothing to the *******. Nobody has answered my question yet. If he is dumb enough to show other people our conversation about me misunderstanding my test results and me thinking he gve me aids or herpes and someone hurts him or kills him because they read it. That's not on me he and his gf show it around? My friend said I would be held for murder? There's no way because I have been working seven days a week for the last three months and haven't shows anyone our conversation. I deleted my email and changed numbers. I just want my mins at ease so I can relax. Would I Bevin trouble ? This guy has ruined my life and made me hate myself. I feel like I'm going to go to jail when I was the victim here.

I have answered your question twice now... here is a third.

You told his girlfriend that he gave you AIDS and herpes. That was a lie. You know it was a lie. That whole "I was so heartbroken I didn't know I was lying" is crap. The "I was so drunk I didn't know I was lying" is crap.

You wanted to sting him... and his girlfriend... so you lied.

That is actionable... by him, against you. The fact that you don't like that he told everyone you lied to him is not actionable. The fact that everyone hates you because you lied to him and he told them you lied to him is not actionable.

The fantasy you have about someone killing him for the stuff you made up is laughable... unless you are stirring the pot to make it happen.

And then you would definitely be an accessory to murder.

Now... can he sue you? Maybe... but why? I would think that he would want as little to do to you as possible.

You are a dishonest and vindictive person. You slept with someone and didn't like what happened next and you are now convinced it gives you the authority to play your little mind games.

You are wrong.

Now, go seek help.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Worriednconfusd

I didn't tell people stories about him. It was between me and him and he brought people into it. He lied and tol people I was crazy and had certain serious illnesses. I didn't defame him in any way.

Yes, you did.

If he's dumb enough to bring other people onto a conversation that's not my fault. Yes he is a bog baby becase he always runs from his proba and has others fight forbhim. He brought his gf in it because he was afraid. He took advantage of me becase I was unstable.

You apparently were unstable.

He will be the one in jail. I did nothing to the *******. Nobody has answered my question yet.

Yes, you did.

If he is dumb enough to show other people our conversation about me misunderstanding my test results and me thinking he gve me aids or herpes and someone hurts him or kills him because they read it. That's not on me he and his gf show it around?

Yes, it's still on you. Period.

My friend said I would be held for murder? There's no way because I have been working seven days a week for the last three months and haven't shows anyone our conversation. I deleted my email and changed numbers. I just want my mins at ease so I can relax. Would I Bevin trouble ? This guy has ruined my life and made me hate myself. I feel like I'm going to go to jail when I was the victim here.

You are not and were not a victim here - of anything more than what you did yourself.

Seriously - you need some intensive counseling to help you deal with whatever is going on. These are not thoughts or actions of a rational person.

And you're being told this to help you - not hurt you.

[Worriednconfusd]

nope u r way off! I never told his nasty prostitute gf I had aids. He told her o was questioning him about it. He brought her into it when it was none of her business. As for being vindictive!!ha! BS! He took advantage of a person with a mental problem. That's a crime on his part. Yeah at the time I didn't know I misread my test results because I wasn't in the right frame of mind. He knew my mom was I'll and he knew my friend was dying of cancer and I was drinking to cope. I even emailed him later telling him I was sorry for Mia reading my results. I never set out to harm anyone. I'm a good person and I take care of people for a living. I can get himbin alot of trouble for taking advantage of a mentally disablded person because I have doc records stating I have mental problems. If anyone was vindictive it was him for telling the hole town I was bipolar and psyco and should be on a mental hospital. If he pursues it he's in a big hole of Trouble! Men I swear they have no respect.

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by Worriednconfusd

nope u r way off! I never told his nasty prostitute gf I had aids. He told her o was questioning him about it. He brought her into it when it was none of her business. As for being vindictive!!ha! BS! He took advantage of a person with a mental problem. That's a crime on his part.

Prove it. At the moment you're the only person who has committed a crime.

Yeah at the time I didn't know I misread my test results because I wasn't in the right frame of mind. He knew my mom was I'll and he knew my friend was dying of cancer and I was drinking to cope. I even emailed him later telling him I was sorry for Mia reading my results. I never set out to harm anyone.

Not an excuse.

I'm a good person and I take care of people for a living. I can get himbin alot of trouble for taking advantage of a mentally disablded person because I have doc records stating I have mental problems.

This is not only contradictory it's actually worrying.

If anyone was vindictive it was him for telling the hole town I was bipolar and psyco and should be on a mental hospital. If he pursues it he's in a big hole of Trouble! Men I swear they have no respect.

No, he's not. He's telling the truth - you, however, were not telling the truth.

Seriously - you need professional help. This board cannot provide the help you need.

[Country Living]

This is all over a one night stand?