terminills
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What is the name of your state? I'm in New York, the estate in question is in Connecticut.
My father passed away last December. He had a will leaving everything to myself and my sister (and my daughter). His will isn't done being probated if that makes a difference. Our Aunt was our fathers medical/legal Power of Attorney (this was a difficult time for us, and neither my sister or I felt comfortable having to make the decisions that would have been required if we were the POA, and we trusted our Aunt so .....) Our father had a life insurance policy thru his work. It hadn't been altered since it was written (we were minors when it was written, and we were listed as beneficiaries along with another one of our Aunts - like she would get it, but for us?) Our Aunt (the POA) found the policy and freaked out saying the policy would go to our other Aunt and asked our permission to change it - it was supposed to be changed to list us as the sole beneficiaries.
Fast Forward a few months, we find out that the policy was changed a few days before our dad passed (he died of cancer, and was heavily sedated, in and out of consciousness and in no shape to be making these kinds of decisions.) Our Aunt signed the policy over to herself, cashed the policy and when we asked about it we were told "too bad so sad - you get what's in the estate and that’s nothing" (She cleared his apt shortly after his death and took posession of everything she wanted)
So, I guess my question is this, is it really too bad so sad for us, or is there something we can do about it? If there is something we can do, where do we start? Neither of us are in the state. We don't know what to do, and were jerked around saying the policy was going to the estate (it wasn't) and feel pretty violated about the whole thing. Please help, even if it's just to tell us we're screwed.
Thanks
My father passed away last December. He had a will leaving everything to myself and my sister (and my daughter). His will isn't done being probated if that makes a difference. Our Aunt was our fathers medical/legal Power of Attorney (this was a difficult time for us, and neither my sister or I felt comfortable having to make the decisions that would have been required if we were the POA, and we trusted our Aunt so .....) Our father had a life insurance policy thru his work. It hadn't been altered since it was written (we were minors when it was written, and we were listed as beneficiaries along with another one of our Aunts - like she would get it, but for us?) Our Aunt (the POA) found the policy and freaked out saying the policy would go to our other Aunt and asked our permission to change it - it was supposed to be changed to list us as the sole beneficiaries.
Fast Forward a few months, we find out that the policy was changed a few days before our dad passed (he died of cancer, and was heavily sedated, in and out of consciousness and in no shape to be making these kinds of decisions.) Our Aunt signed the policy over to herself, cashed the policy and when we asked about it we were told "too bad so sad - you get what's in the estate and that’s nothing" (She cleared his apt shortly after his death and took posession of everything she wanted)
So, I guess my question is this, is it really too bad so sad for us, or is there something we can do about it? If there is something we can do, where do we start? Neither of us are in the state. We don't know what to do, and were jerked around saying the policy was going to the estate (it wasn't) and feel pretty violated about the whole thing. Please help, even if it's just to tell us we're screwed.
Thanks