Dancingchia
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
So I had my oldest daughter when I was 18. He left after she was about a year and a half and I hadn't ever had the money to go and get his rights revoked. I got married to a guy when she was two (Me and her father hadn't been together since she was 3mos). He raised my daughter since she was 6months old. We separated when my oldest turned 6yrs old and haven't been living together for 4 years. We had always talked about him adopting my oldest daughter but we never got around to doing it financially. Well, a month ago my daughters "Father" called me out of the blue and wanted to talk about getting to know my daughter.... He said he feels guilty and such. My oldest says she doesn't really want to get to know him right now (Shes 10) and maybe when she is older she will maybe. Now that me and her stepdad have not been together for 4 years and we both have moved on into other relationships... I don't know what to do. I still want him to adopt her, as far as anyone is considered HE is her Dad.... Can he still adopt her? Can he adopt her even after we finally get our divorce finalized or should I wait? What kind of rights does my daughters "Father" have?? Can he just suddenly get visitations with her? Can I now go and revoke his rights?
So I had my oldest daughter when I was 18. He left after she was about a year and a half and I hadn't ever had the money to go and get his rights revoked. I got married to a guy when she was two (Me and her father hadn't been together since she was 3mos). He raised my daughter since she was 6months old. We separated when my oldest turned 6yrs old and haven't been living together for 4 years. We had always talked about him adopting my oldest daughter but we never got around to doing it financially. Well, a month ago my daughters "Father" called me out of the blue and wanted to talk about getting to know my daughter.... He said he feels guilty and such. My oldest says she doesn't really want to get to know him right now (Shes 10) and maybe when she is older she will maybe. Now that me and her stepdad have not been together for 4 years and we both have moved on into other relationships... I don't know what to do. I still want him to adopt her, as far as anyone is considered HE is her Dad.... Can he still adopt her? Can he adopt her even after we finally get our divorce finalized or should I wait? What kind of rights does my daughters "Father" have?? Can he just suddenly get visitations with her? Can I now go and revoke his rights?