alienation of affection

What is the name of your state? missouri
i am the step father of my wifes children and my question is can i sue the biofather for allienation of affectionbecause my wife has primary but joint custody, every time they visit or talk to him on the phone he tells them dont listen to him, make his life miserable, he's not your real father, etc.. which is making life here pretty miserable & at one time these kids all loved me very much, mutual i might add. thier good kids without thier fathers input, but turn into uncontroballe brats after any contact with real father. would greatly appreciate any help. hurting and confused in missouri i only said real father because they say to me your not my real father. we have been married 7 yrs. & together for a year prior, met on one of our childrens scool field trip after they were divorced. we have 8 children altogether 3mine 4hers 1ours but love &treat them same. 4 grown & on own 4 at home. first everyone got along wonderful till father started telling them these things,and we have tried talking about problem with father wants to fight,children always seeing bio mom & dad argue. children and mom elect to get counseling to help deal with stress & learn ways to cope with constant manipulation from ex. much more to story but too much to post here.

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I believe alienation of affection is a term reserved for marriage when one spouse doesn't show affection for the other. By your post, I would suggest you stop referring to your stepchildren's father as the "real" father. Just because you aren't the natural father doesn't mean you'll disappear if they turn off the light.

Legally, if anything could be done, your wife would have to pursue it. She may want to file for a modification of custody or have the children speak to a counselor. Has she talked to biodad about his behavior? It may come from jealousy. Some bioparents resent the new relationship their children have with stepparents. Did you ever have a man-to-man talk with him?

Unfortunately, some parents don't care how their attitudes affect their children, so the children suffer.