What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? I live in NJ, she lives in MN.
I'm in the military and get BAH because I'm married. I want to divorce my wife after a year, we have no kids together but she has one 3 year old. I'm going to serve her with the papers next week. I have to pay off various credit cards(2 she got without my permission in my name)and a large loan that I had to get to have her moved back home, as well as other bills. Usually after i get paid and pay bills and debts, I have very little money left for food. I used to give my wife approximately $1,200 month, leaving me with a few hundred to pay my rent. But I realized that I'd starve if I gave her this much, so I asked nicely if I could give her $1000 a month, so I could live lol.
She has a vindictive streak so I'm sketical about some of her claims: She says if I take more money from her, I'm going to regret it, I'll owe her so much money in court. She doesn't have a job yet and can't get unemployment because she hasn't worked long enough (she only had a job for approx 4 months while we were married) so she can't pay her rent and is depending on this to do it.
She made the mistake of getting a place she couldn't even afford when she moved back home, is that my problem? What if she got a place that was more than even the BAH? Wouldn't it make more sense to live with a family member or something UNTIL you get a job? She is making it look like the money I'm sending her is her only way to live, which is making me look bad, but I have to eat too right?
I'm just don't know what she's really capable of because I've never dealt with this stuff before. When we lived together, and I stopped sending her $300 a month for her leisure and made it $100, she flipped out and said she would send a letter to congress and have me kicked out of the navy if I didn't send her $200 more lol, there are so many more asinine claims. I don't know if I'm right or wrong for sending her 1k a month instead of 1.2k. Thanks in advance for any advice, it's greatly appreciated. I'm 23 and she is 29 by the way.
I'm in the military and get BAH because I'm married. I want to divorce my wife after a year, we have no kids together but she has one 3 year old. I'm going to serve her with the papers next week. I have to pay off various credit cards(2 she got without my permission in my name)and a large loan that I had to get to have her moved back home, as well as other bills. Usually after i get paid and pay bills and debts, I have very little money left for food. I used to give my wife approximately $1,200 month, leaving me with a few hundred to pay my rent. But I realized that I'd starve if I gave her this much, so I asked nicely if I could give her $1000 a month, so I could live lol.
She has a vindictive streak so I'm sketical about some of her claims: She says if I take more money from her, I'm going to regret it, I'll owe her so much money in court. She doesn't have a job yet and can't get unemployment because she hasn't worked long enough (she only had a job for approx 4 months while we were married) so she can't pay her rent and is depending on this to do it.
She made the mistake of getting a place she couldn't even afford when she moved back home, is that my problem? What if she got a place that was more than even the BAH? Wouldn't it make more sense to live with a family member or something UNTIL you get a job? She is making it look like the money I'm sending her is her only way to live, which is making me look bad, but I have to eat too right?
I'm just don't know what she's really capable of because I've never dealt with this stuff before. When we lived together, and I stopped sending her $300 a month for her leisure and made it $100, she flipped out and said she would send a letter to congress and have me kicked out of the navy if I didn't send her $200 more lol, there are so many more asinine claims. I don't know if I'm right or wrong for sending her 1k a month instead of 1.2k. Thanks in advance for any advice, it's greatly appreciated. I'm 23 and she is 29 by the way.
I'm so stressed out, she is holding me back from living my life.