Attorney slow in visitation or adoption what should be done?

What is the name of your state? What is the name of your state? Indiana jurisdiction.

To make a long story short, I have been trying for over 2 years to reestablish a relationship with my three children. (The oldest is 16). I had been out of their lives physically for 5 years due to the conflicts their mother and I have. (child support has always been paid, no arrearage.) It was a letter from their mother that started the communication again. But as soon as their mother found out that I wanted visitation she told me that the children did not wish for me to be in their lives but they still wanted child support. The children also voiced this in a short supervised meeting we had with their church youth counselor present. I agreed to abide by their wishes.

Needless to say, I retained an attorney. 3 court dates later I am no further ahead than when I started. I have participated in anger management classes and other counseling and a visitation agreement could not be worked out through attorneys so a step-parent adoption was tentatively agreed upon. I offered to pay for counseling for the kids to help with any adjustments that their lives would need it was declined. I signed paperwork 60 days ago to allow the children's step father to adopt them and was told that this all should be over by October. (I even said I would pay for the adoption) As of this date, her attorney has never responded with other than -other cases have taken priority-. I am unsure what steps to take now. Should there be another court date? Should her attorney be reprimanded? if so how? Ultimately I would like to be able to have a relationship with my kids but I fear it is too late. I want them to be happy children but I feel that I should not have to pay child support if they (with their mothers guidance) are the ones who are chosing not to have contact with me. To my knowledge they have a very good relationship with their step-father and their lives would not change much if I was to continue to not be in their lives. Any suggestions?

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Are you contacting the other attorney or is your attorney contacting the other attorney?

Both I and my attorney have contacted my ex's attorney and ex to see what else is needed from me. I emailed her attorney (with my attorney's ok) and her reply was that she was getting ready for a trial. From that stemmed an email from the ex saying unless I was going to pay for it then to stop emailing her attorney. Since that was under the direction of my attorney I blew her off.

Since then I have made weekly contacts with my attorney and 2 weeks ago he was told that she had been consumed with the trial and we should see something the following week. My attorney has since not been able to reach her.

Ultimately, It is my own fault that this happened but I wish to put a stop to it now. The children are the ones that this is most affecting.

She probably still wants the child support and if her husband adopts the children, that will stop. Unfortunately you have to continue paying until she does something about it, as you can adopt your kids out. Sorry this is happening to you.

I am sure that she just wants the money (roughly $1400 a mo). Sure, it would be nice to stop paying it but it would have been better if I would have been able to convince her to take the children to counseling to start working on our broken relationship.

I cannot undo the damage she has done to the children during my absense. But I know I have rights too. Thank you for your concern, it is nice to find others who share the same thoughts.