RYANSTEELE
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Cali.
Hi anyone,
It's been awhile but here I am again, new password in hand and ready to poke around in the hope of finding something valuable to use in my divorce war(year 5)
If anyone gets this and posts a reply??... thanks in advance.
I will be in court tomorrow morning for a custody hearing and possibly?? support hearing in the afternoon.
I am convinced that my ex has stuck her neck out too far this time.
Our judgement was issued in October 2007. It was followed by a support hearing a year later resulting in payments to my ex. The payments lasted 4 months during which time I enforced my custody rights and the payments stopped. My ex wife responded to the enforcement with a campaign of harassment. I have 2 police reports from nights when my ex picked our daughter up from activities(parties) and took her back to her house in violation of the custody schedule and my rights. Her harassment of our daughter and myself during my custody(constant phone calls checking times, abusive text messages to me) resulted in a visit to my home by the local police after calls from my ex saying she was extremely worried about the safety of her daughter and stating that I had no idea where our daughter was. Our daughter had been in bed for about 30 mins but the officers asked to talk to her and after they realised everything was O.K. they left. I asked them to file some kind of a report that I could produce in court but they didn't want to get involved.
This mess has had a negative effect on our 14 year old daughter and she finished her first year of high school with straight F's
Summer school was required and my ex offered to let our daughter stay with her for the 6 week period because the school was on the way to her office. That way our daughter could get dolled up with her expensive clothes and cruise to school in the new BMW( I ride a motorcycle, an old one not a cool one, and although it was no problem in the beginning now my daughter is embarassed to ride with me????)
During the 6 week period my ex arranged to drop our daughter off at my house but did the no show routine again and I folded and let the 6 weeks slide by without enforcing my custody.
THEN THE TRICK WAS REVEALED.
I was in the middle of moving when I heard that a lady was looking for me and a week later I was served papers for a modification of custody followed by support hearing. The lady that served me was a charming old girl and after we had a little laugh about me moving from house to house to evade her she said goodbye then she said , "and good luck with that one" and made one of those exaggerated jaw drop faces. She said she had glanced through the FL-300 when she was stopped in traffic or red lights and she could only imagine what kind of a maniac this person was. When I read the contents I could not believe it myself. Almost everything is false, it is the distorted image of the way my ex see's me. The statements can be easily rebutted but there is a bigger problem because there is no mention of a major change in circumstances that would warrant the change being granted. My ex says she wants %90 to %100 legal and physical custody and $500 a month.
Sorry for the amount of info but I think I can cut to the chase now..
I have some serious thinking and some weighty decisions to make in the near future and it will be driven by the performance of our daughter when she returns to school but right now I want to appear for the hearing and see the judge deny the changes because there is no basis for it. Having said that I always find court appearances very emotionally distressing and feel that there is always the horrifying prospect of things going terribly wrong in a blink of an eye(obviously I am not represented by an attorney, I couldn't find one that had any interest in a '96 Suzuki)
Is there a way to skate through? Is honesty the best policy? Can I simply answer the obvious questions and hope that the judge likes me?
And is there a gigantic hole in the road ahead waiting to swallow me up based on the second episode of me allowing her to take over all of the custody??
Cali.
Hi anyone,
It's been awhile but here I am again, new password in hand and ready to poke around in the hope of finding something valuable to use in my divorce war(year 5)
If anyone gets this and posts a reply??... thanks in advance.
I will be in court tomorrow morning for a custody hearing and possibly?? support hearing in the afternoon.
I am convinced that my ex has stuck her neck out too far this time.
Our judgement was issued in October 2007. It was followed by a support hearing a year later resulting in payments to my ex. The payments lasted 4 months during which time I enforced my custody rights and the payments stopped. My ex wife responded to the enforcement with a campaign of harassment. I have 2 police reports from nights when my ex picked our daughter up from activities(parties) and took her back to her house in violation of the custody schedule and my rights. Her harassment of our daughter and myself during my custody(constant phone calls checking times, abusive text messages to me) resulted in a visit to my home by the local police after calls from my ex saying she was extremely worried about the safety of her daughter and stating that I had no idea where our daughter was. Our daughter had been in bed for about 30 mins but the officers asked to talk to her and after they realised everything was O.K. they left. I asked them to file some kind of a report that I could produce in court but they didn't want to get involved.
This mess has had a negative effect on our 14 year old daughter and she finished her first year of high school with straight F's
Summer school was required and my ex offered to let our daughter stay with her for the 6 week period because the school was on the way to her office. That way our daughter could get dolled up with her expensive clothes and cruise to school in the new BMW( I ride a motorcycle, an old one not a cool one, and although it was no problem in the beginning now my daughter is embarassed to ride with me????)
During the 6 week period my ex arranged to drop our daughter off at my house but did the no show routine again and I folded and let the 6 weeks slide by without enforcing my custody.
THEN THE TRICK WAS REVEALED.
I was in the middle of moving when I heard that a lady was looking for me and a week later I was served papers for a modification of custody followed by support hearing. The lady that served me was a charming old girl and after we had a little laugh about me moving from house to house to evade her she said goodbye then she said , "and good luck with that one" and made one of those exaggerated jaw drop faces. She said she had glanced through the FL-300 when she was stopped in traffic or red lights and she could only imagine what kind of a maniac this person was. When I read the contents I could not believe it myself. Almost everything is false, it is the distorted image of the way my ex see's me. The statements can be easily rebutted but there is a bigger problem because there is no mention of a major change in circumstances that would warrant the change being granted. My ex says she wants %90 to %100 legal and physical custody and $500 a month.
Sorry for the amount of info but I think I can cut to the chase now..
I have some serious thinking and some weighty decisions to make in the near future and it will be driven by the performance of our daughter when she returns to school but right now I want to appear for the hearing and see the judge deny the changes because there is no basis for it. Having said that I always find court appearances very emotionally distressing and feel that there is always the horrifying prospect of things going terribly wrong in a blink of an eye(obviously I am not represented by an attorney, I couldn't find one that had any interest in a '96 Suzuki)
Is there a way to skate through? Is honesty the best policy? Can I simply answer the obvious questions and hope that the judge likes me?
And is there a gigantic hole in the road ahead waiting to swallow me up based on the second episode of me allowing her to take over all of the custody??