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Jax11
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California: Husbands ex-girlfriend is using kids to track us down.
I am currently married to a Prince who happens to have 2 beautiful kids with his ex-girlfriend. After meeting her for the first time a year ago, it was evident why he was anxious to get away from her. She is manipulative and demanding and worst of all, uses my husbands kids as a pawn against him to get her way. After continuous threats of withholding visitation from my husband, verbal abuse by phone and in person in front of the kids to inflict confrontation, we decided to move 4 cities from her and withhold our address and phone number but could be reached by pager in case of emergencies. This was to avoid any more stress of receiving heated calls at 2:00 in the morning and unexpected visits by her when the kids were over-usually ending in her taking them back to her house. When we moved we got an unlisted number, unlisted address, was careful as to not tell their mutual friends, and my husband even had the child support direct deposited from his account into his every two weeks. As it turns out she obtained our info. through some kind of agency that tracks down parents due to unpaid child support and the harrassing is starting all over again. Isn't this agency responsible for doing thorough checks on the "negligent" party before giving away our private info.? If they would have called us we would have explained the situation and provided more than accurate records, documents and statements showing child support payments every two weeks. I'm very dissapointed and am wondering what rights do we have in this matter? We're moving in 2 days and am wondering how we can protect ourselves if possible. They never went through the courts to get legal custody or establish child support, it was all upon their own discretion. Help?
[Edited by Jax11 on 02-15-2001 at 12:59 PM]
I am currently married to a Prince who happens to have 2 beautiful kids with his ex-girlfriend. After meeting her for the first time a year ago, it was evident why he was anxious to get away from her. She is manipulative and demanding and worst of all, uses my husbands kids as a pawn against him to get her way. After continuous threats of withholding visitation from my husband, verbal abuse by phone and in person in front of the kids to inflict confrontation, we decided to move 4 cities from her and withhold our address and phone number but could be reached by pager in case of emergencies. This was to avoid any more stress of receiving heated calls at 2:00 in the morning and unexpected visits by her when the kids were over-usually ending in her taking them back to her house. When we moved we got an unlisted number, unlisted address, was careful as to not tell their mutual friends, and my husband even had the child support direct deposited from his account into his every two weeks. As it turns out she obtained our info. through some kind of agency that tracks down parents due to unpaid child support and the harrassing is starting all over again. Isn't this agency responsible for doing thorough checks on the "negligent" party before giving away our private info.? If they would have called us we would have explained the situation and provided more than accurate records, documents and statements showing child support payments every two weeks. I'm very dissapointed and am wondering what rights do we have in this matter? We're moving in 2 days and am wondering how we can protect ourselves if possible. They never went through the courts to get legal custody or establish child support, it was all upon their own discretion. Help?
[Edited by Jax11 on 02-15-2001 at 12:59 PM]