Can husband sign a TPR while married, on his adopted child?

[Christine050251]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Florida.

Dear sirs,

I need some info. and maybe someone can help me.
I'll try to make this short and to the point. (hard to do )
I am 53, have a beautiful little girl through adoption that will be 3 soon. My husband, that never had any children and is 47 is a good father but very self centered and selfish and tight with money. I have 3 raised biological children that are wonderful and love their little sister very much.
He was caught cheating for over a year and still continues to. If anything happens to me, I want my daughters to raise our little one, not him.
He does not hang out with the right people, doesn't attent church as he should, not to mention he is clueless on how to raise a "very active" little girl. He does love her.
He said that if we divorced, or even now, he would sign over his entire parental rights. Not just I have custody. He knows he would no longer be her father. (sad) This way he would not have to pay child support too, a plus in his favor he thinks, if we divorced.
Even though we are married and trying to make it work, I would like to have a paper NOW stating that if a divorce, he relinquishes his parental rights. Or, a paper signed even now, while we are still married. He just would not leagally be her father. This would take a big load off of me as I am scared to death to let him raise her and as long as he is willing to sign, married or not and if I'm able, I want to have him sign the papers asap to keep filed away or with the courts.
I hope it's just a lawyer thing at this point
and we won't have to go to court being we are both in agreeance. This way, I can put in my will should anything happen to me, who raises my daughter and feel a great comfort.
Even if we get divorced and we don't do this, I would worry where she is with him, who she's with, whatever, but I guess that's normal.
It's if I die, I am most afraid of. That would mean he would have her for 16 years. He has to work and does not have the patience and I don't want her to go through that.
I know all this sounds terrable, but I can't think of another way to protect her and I was shocked that he said it was fine with him. He was happy there would be no child support and he could just walk away a free man from the marriage. I want to jump on this ASAP.
any help would be appreciated.
Where to I start and what do I ask for?
what I am hoping for is a simple form
that is filled out by an attorney, give it to my husband to be signed and notorized. It would be effective not just upon divorce should it happen, but
i would rather it be effective now, even while we are married or stay married. This way, as I said, I can say in my will, who raises her. If I only get the tpr saying "upon divorce" and I drop dead, he will have her and it is not in her best interest. He even admitted that it would be hard for him to raise her and does not want the responsibility.

Linda

[BelizeBreeze]

Even though we are married and trying to make it work, I would like to have a paper NOW stating that if a divorce, he relinquishes his parental rights. Or, a paper signed even now, while we are still married. He just would not leagally be her father. This would take a big load off of me as I am scared to death to let him raise her and as long as he is willing to sign, married or not and if I'm able, I want to have him sign the papers asap to keep filed away or with the courts.

Not now, not ever can he "just walk away" unless the child has another person willing to adopt.

So, while you may be able to stick an 'agreement' under his nose, it holds no legal value. Especially if and when you die.

[stealth2]

You can't do that, hon. He IS her father, and if something were to happen to you - he'd still be her father and first in line to raise her. If that were the situation, there would be nothing to stop him from signing custody over to one of your other children (assuming there were no issues a court would be concerned with). If you were to divorce, he is as responsible for her as he would have been if she was a child of his loins. He doesn't get to walk away.