akalatheory
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
Ok, so I'm a mother of two girls and married to my oldest daughter's father. She is 9 years old. I cheated on my husband a couple years ago, and now I have a baby that's almost one and a half. Paternity hasn't been confirmed, but no one is listed as the father on her birth certificate (but he is on my 9 year old's birth certificate, my husband is). Anyway, so that's where it all started. I left my husband, and about a month after the baby was born we decided to get back together. We found our own apartment for the four of us and we moved in April 1st of this year. Well, my husband refused to put me on the lease, initially stating that he wanted to be sure that he could kick me out. He then went back later and came up with more logical reasons why he didn't want me on the lease. This man is a master manipulator, extremely verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive as well as financially abusive. He has been badgering and bullying me into talking to him about my affair and every aspect regarding it and he's severely abusive when he does it and he will gladly do it in front of the kids. Well, because I won't talk about it due to just how abusive he is about it, and knowing every single little thing will be used against me later, he told me he wasn't going to pay any of the bills (knowing that NOW I'm between jobs), he then later told me that since I refused to talk to him I could leave with the baby that we don't think is his. And then he'll turn around and claim that he was just having a bad day, or blowing off steam and that I should know by now he doesn't really mean it and he's sorry and blah blah blah. Well just today, he yet again, told me I had until the end of this month to leave, but only with the baby.
So my question is, because I'm not on the lease do I have to leave with only the baby, or can I take my 9 year old with me too? I want to get her out of this mess. It's influencing her very heavily.
He has promised me that if I left with our 9-year-old that he would call DCFS, Lutheran Social Services, and take legal action against me and because his threats are legally-based, they weren't "threats" so there isn't anything I can do about it but leave her with him. According to him, I have no other option but to leave our oldest with my husband but I don't want to do that. Please, I need some advice and soon :/
Ok, so I'm a mother of two girls and married to my oldest daughter's father. She is 9 years old. I cheated on my husband a couple years ago, and now I have a baby that's almost one and a half. Paternity hasn't been confirmed, but no one is listed as the father on her birth certificate (but he is on my 9 year old's birth certificate, my husband is). Anyway, so that's where it all started. I left my husband, and about a month after the baby was born we decided to get back together. We found our own apartment for the four of us and we moved in April 1st of this year. Well, my husband refused to put me on the lease, initially stating that he wanted to be sure that he could kick me out. He then went back later and came up with more logical reasons why he didn't want me on the lease. This man is a master manipulator, extremely verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive as well as financially abusive. He has been badgering and bullying me into talking to him about my affair and every aspect regarding it and he's severely abusive when he does it and he will gladly do it in front of the kids. Well, because I won't talk about it due to just how abusive he is about it, and knowing every single little thing will be used against me later, he told me he wasn't going to pay any of the bills (knowing that NOW I'm between jobs), he then later told me that since I refused to talk to him I could leave with the baby that we don't think is his. And then he'll turn around and claim that he was just having a bad day, or blowing off steam and that I should know by now he doesn't really mean it and he's sorry and blah blah blah. Well just today, he yet again, told me I had until the end of this month to leave, but only with the baby.
So my question is, because I'm not on the lease do I have to leave with only the baby, or can I take my 9 year old with me too? I want to get her out of this mess. It's influencing her very heavily.
He has promised me that if I left with our 9-year-old that he would call DCFS, Lutheran Social Services, and take legal action against me and because his threats are legally-based, they weren't "threats" so there isn't anything I can do about it but leave her with him. According to him, I have no other option but to leave our oldest with my husband but I don't want to do that. Please, I need some advice and soon :/