Child name change..all opinions needed

[jlc614]

Hi!I have a question about changing my son's name. I am pretty sure the answer is no but thought that I might get some advice from here. My fiance and I are getting married and I have a son from a previous relationship. His BF has contacted me once in 3 years about my son and then never showed to see him. However, he did state that he would not let my fiance adopt my son and will not tell me where he is living. My son has my last name and I was wondering if there was anyway to give him my fiance's last name when we get married since my name will be changing. If not can I take both names maiden-married and give that name to my son? I would like to take my fiances name but I do not want my son to feel funny about having a different name then the rest of the family. Please help me.

Were you married to the BF? Is there a court order for custody/visitation? Is the BF on the birth certificate?

I have a friend who went through the same thing. We live in Florida, so the laws may be different. If the BF is not on the birth certificate and there has been no court order establishing paternity and custody, then you should be able to change his name to whatever you want. I have a daughter in this situation, and I changed her name to my maiden name.

As for the step-parent adoption. All my friend had to do was make an effort to find the BF. They ran a legal notice in the paper for the BF to see. He chose not to respond and the step-parent adoption went through. They filed the paperwork themselves and it cost less than $100. I don't know what the laws are regarding him changing his mind, but so far he hasn't.

You may want to do some research on the net regarding your state laws.

Good luck and I hope this helps.

My question relates to the subject. I want to know if there are any laws for the state of Ohio regarding whether or not you can give the child the father's surname if you were never married, and he has not signed the birth certificate. A family member of ours received a phone call that a woman he had "relations" with gave birth to a baby boy, and gave him his surname,not hers. He was never even told she was pregnant, they were never married, nor living together. I thought unwed mothers, without the father present, had to give the baby her last name. Furthermore, a DNA test hasn't even been performed yet. Can anyone anwer my question? If anyone can give their baby any name, then I should've named mine Donald Trump, Jr. and if it is so that you can give the child father's surname outside of marriage, then maybe the woman w/ deceased boyfriend should have done that at the time of their births.