Child Support

[Preciousluve886]

Hello.

I live in the state of Fla and my Ex lives in Alabama.

I have a Income deduction order here in the state of Fla. They want me to transfer the case to the state of Al.

My question is: If I transfer the case to his state doesn't that give him the options of changing things in the case, IE: like trying to lower his payments?

He is in arrears of $10,000 now. I have a warrant for his arrest and all. And he knows the warrant is here in this state and wont cross the line to see his son. The child support people tell me to transfer the case to his state so they can take over the case. I also have to pay a $25.00 filing fee for this. The custodial parent seems to have to pay all the fees to get this stuff taken care of. More money out of the children's mouths!
I want him to go to jail or pay what he owes but I dont want to give him any kind of power in this case.

I want to keep the case here in Fl, but if I do this I cant get him to do whats right by my son.

Any advice?

Please email me direct
[email]preciousluve886@cs.com[/email]

Thank you in advance
Tina

This is just my opinion, but something I hope you'll think real hard about. In your post, it sounded as though you have some issues with your ex. I know 1st hand about what it costs to raise children these days-especially alone! However, regardless of why or how your ex is in arrears of $10,000. is petty as to be the only reason he won't see his son. Whether you like it or not, he also has rights. With so many men out there not wanting ANYTHING to do with their child(ren), you should consider yourself lucky, provided that he wants to be your son's dad. To put it bluntly, If the money is the only thing high on your priority list, and you rather see your son's father in jail, than spending time w/ him, you need to re-evaluate the whole situation. I just hope that when your son grows up, he doesn't think of you as the reason he didn't have a dad. You don't want to give him the "power" to be able to lower the support, or whatever, but what would you really win by all this? More importantly, what would your son want more-money, or a dad that's just plain there for him?

[Preciousluve886]

I don't have issues with my Ex except for him not paying his support. I don't believe that this man or any other man or woman can just go through life walking away from his/her responsibilities. And that is exactly what he has done. And for the part you said about being a better person by doing it myself. I already am raising him myself. But this man thinks that he can just come and go into my son's life whenever he feels the need to be a father. My answer to that is "NO"! You don't come and go as you please and act like a 2 day hero to a child and then don't call or come over to see him unless your mood suits you. Im sorry but you are wrong. Either your a parent or your not! The man has 1 responsibilty and that is to pay support and he doesn't even want to do that. I will not let him off and skate through life thinking that another human being is worthless. This is his flesh and blood and he will pay what the courts have ordered him to pay. He may not pay today or tomorrow But he will pay! And as for answering to a higher authority. We all have to answer to a higher authority and my EX will be headed for a fast trip DOWN those stairs when he is called home and sent straight to where he belongs!