Cohabitation Extortion

[Proserpina]

Originally Posted by atWitzEnd

Did you just let it go, or were you able to retrieve your belongings? I find it hard to believe someone can just declare possession or abandonment without just cause.

We were married - that may be a difference?

I did lose everything; because I left the marital home and belongings - it was more important for me to be safe than to decide what to take/leave - and had been gone for longer than 90 days his attorney indicated that because ex gave me formal notification that he considered everything abandoned he did have the right to sell/get rid of everything if I didn't retrieve the stuff myself. He gave me 7 days.

I wasn't in a position to do so, but the onus was still on me, and I do know that. So, he gave me notice and because I didn't collect within that 7 day grace period he went ahead and did it.

It WAS my fault too (if not entirely), and again at the time I was just so relieved at being out of there that it seemed a small price to pay.

Hindsight being what it is though, I really should have fought him on that. Still, I ended up free and able to live my life and he ended up divorcing his third wife (I was #2) and eventually filing ch 13.

I came out on top - I don't have much "stuff", but I do have piece of mind

/end hijack

[atWitzEnd]

Nah, no worries about a hijack. I appreciate the perspective of a similar story.

I would actually take the 7 day deal (although that would seem rather hectic under the circumstances). This is all just very hard and confusing, as prior to this we have always gotten along famously - even in light of the 'break-up' she induced. This latest thing is WAY out of left field. Sigh. I guess this explains why I would have been husband #3 for her. (would have been first for me).

I'm just going to wait this out for a few days and see what her reply is before I do anything.