collecting court ordered payments in Missouri

[missilesilo]

Missouri

Wife's ex refuses to pay monthly health insurance costs and extracurricular expenses as contained in the parenting plan. Twice a year we go to court to force payment, judge orders payment and legal fees. Ex pays the legal fees or they get garnished but he doesn't pay us until we file for the next contempt order.

Seems like all we do is go to court and see lawyers. Even with the court ordering him to pay legal fees, we still get stuck with lawyer bills for consultation, etc.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY THE JUDGE DOESN'T SET A TIME FRAME FOR PAYMENT AND THEN THROW HIS BUTT IN JAIL WHEN HE DOESN'T PAY. This guy is an engineer, owns his own firm and clears @ $150,000 annually. He refuses to pay simply to be a nuisance and an aggravation. (and probably so he can see my wife in court...his new wife makes sheep look attractive.)

Any advice appreciated.

[Silverplum]

Originally Posted by missilesilo

Missouri

Wife's ex refuses to pay monthly health insurance costs and extracurricular expenses as contained in the parenting plan. Twice a year we go to court to force payment, judge orders payment and legal fees. Ex pays the legal fees or they get garnished but he doesn't pay us until we file for the next contempt order.

Seems like all we do is go to court and see lawyers. Even with the court ordering him to pay legal fees, we still get stuck with lawyer bills for consultation, etc.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY THE JUDGE DOESN'T SET A TIME FRAME FOR PAYMENT AND THEN THROW HIS BUTT IN JAIL WHEN HE DOESN'T PAY. This guy is an engineer, owns his own firm and clears @ $150,000 annually. He refuses to pay simply to be a nuisance and an aggravation. (and probably so he can see my wife in court...his new wife makes sheep look attractive.)

Any advice appreciated.

I don't understand, either. Doesn't seem like a problem to be solved on a message board.

[Gracie3787]

Originally Posted by missilesilo

Missouri

Wife's ex refuses to pay monthly health insurance costs and extracurricular expenses as contained in the parenting plan. Twice a year we go to court to force payment, judge orders payment and legal fees. Ex pays the legal fees or they get garnished but he doesn't pay us until we file for the next contempt order.

Seems like all we do is go to court and see lawyers. Even with the court ordering him to pay legal fees, we still get stuck with lawyer bills for consultation, etc.

I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY THE JUDGE DOESN'T SET A TIME FRAME FOR PAYMENT AND THEN THROW HIS BUTT IN JAIL WHEN HE DOESN'T PAY. This guy is an engineer, owns his own firm and clears @ $150,000 annually. He refuses to pay simply to be a nuisance and an aggravation. (and probably so he can see my wife in court...his new wife makes sheep look attractive.)

Any advice appreciated.

Since you are married to a mother whose ex doesn't want to pay, you might as well get used to your wife going to court every so often. That is just the way the system is set up. I'd like to point something out though-

1. YOU are not a legal party to this and for that reason YOU do not HAVE TO go to court. Just be there for your wife and let her handle it, it is HER burden to bear.

2. Eventually, the court will get fed up and wife's ex will go to jail, but of course when that happens, your wife won't be able to collect anything.

Your comment about your wife's ex's new wife is totally inappropriate for any legal situation. You can think whateever you want about her, but your thoughts have no place or relevance in the legal arena.

[nextwife]

Originally Posted by Gracie3787

Your comment about your wife's ex's new wife is totally inappropriate for any legal situation. You can think whateever you want about her, but your thoughts have no place or relevance in the legal arena.

Agreed! Commenting on your opinion about how attractive, or unattractive someone's wife may be is totally out of line in this context.

Reminds me of how INAPPROPRIATE it was for Donald Trump, Mr. Major Comb-over himself, to comment on Rosie O'Donnell's physical appearance. Has HE looked in the mirror? Give me a break!

[IndyDad1on1]

One reason why your wifes ex has not been thrown in jail might be because her attorney did not ask for it in the contempt citation. I'd also like to mention that seeking imprisonment of the other party is not always the a good route to take especially when there are kids.

The best suggestion I think is to let your wife and her attorney continue to handle the matter as her attorney sees fit.

[missilesilo]

constructive ideas and criticisms always welcome.

as for the sheep comment, if it wasn't for a little levity....I would be tearing my hair out.