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Chuck01234
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I’ve got a situation where an excessively controlling and unstable mother is willing to do anything and everything to prevent her 18 year old daughter from making any choice of her own. Both the mother and daughter have permanent green cards for the U.S., they were born in China, moved to England, and now live in Illinois. Their husband/step-father is a U.S. citizen. The daughter now wants to move to Pennsylvania to further her college education free of control with my support. I’m her future fiancee. We’ve visited each other a few times without her mother knowing, however she’s recently told her mother of her plan. Her mother of course went ballistic, threatening to lock her up in a mental ward, kick her out of the house, drop all financial support for college, etc etc. When that failed to persuade her, her mother threatened to do police checks on me (which I don’t mind, I’ve never gotten so much as a parking ticket) and report her daughter as a missing person to have me arrested as a kidnapper, even though she knows exactly where and why her daughter is going.
The mother has history of enforcing do-or-die ultimatums, this is nothing new but now that the daughter is 18 it’s a whole new ballpark. My questions are these…
the mother forced her daughter into a mental ward when she was 15-16 against the daughter’s will and the will of the hospital, they didn’t want to admit her but the mother persisted. The intent of this was a scare tactic, "Do as I say or else…" at 18, can she legally be forced back even though she’s perfectly sane, rational, etc.?
Is the mother at all obligated to care for or fund her daughter at this point or can she legally kick her out without so much as a dollar?
Knowing that she intends to file a false missing persons report, what can I do to beat her to the punch and either prevent that or make it null? I was thinking of just telling the local police of the situation so they would have it on file if the missing persons report came around. Any other ideas?
It wouldn’t surprise me at all if the mother decided to come all the way out to Pennsylvania and start slamming on the door, it’s a worst case scenario but I might as well consider it. In this event, is there any risk of her taking "custody" of an 18 year old (19 by the time that would come about) or would she legally amount to nothing more than a trespasser?
The mother has history of enforcing do-or-die ultimatums, this is nothing new but now that the daughter is 18 it’s a whole new ballpark. My questions are these…
the mother forced her daughter into a mental ward when she was 15-16 against the daughter’s will and the will of the hospital, they didn’t want to admit her but the mother persisted. The intent of this was a scare tactic, "Do as I say or else…" at 18, can she legally be forced back even though she’s perfectly sane, rational, etc.?
Is the mother at all obligated to care for or fund her daughter at this point or can she legally kick her out without so much as a dollar?
Knowing that she intends to file a false missing persons report, what can I do to beat her to the punch and either prevent that or make it null? I was thinking of just telling the local police of the situation so they would have it on file if the missing persons report came around. Any other ideas?
It wouldn’t surprise me at all if the mother decided to come all the way out to Pennsylvania and start slamming on the door, it’s a worst case scenario but I might as well consider it. In this event, is there any risk of her taking "custody" of an 18 year old (19 by the time that would come about) or would she legally amount to nothing more than a trespasser?