gretch said:
My boyfriend and me have a problem with his ex girlfriend. He has a daughter with her and she thinks she should have control over every thing in his life. She has gone as far as threating me and him with taking us to court. He pays child support every week, cares for her on the weekends and during the summer. Our problem is she(ex) will call come to our homes yelling and screaming over little issues. She says she has let him slide way to long. Which we don't get. They haven't been together for over 5 years yet she still thinks she has a right to control his life and who he see's.What is our best way of dealing with her? We need some peace in our life's. She tells us we can not sleep together, comes over out of the blue, we cann't kiss in front of her daughter or even hold hands. Please help us before we all go insane.
Though IAAL and MSM are right, I would have to go a little further and say, IF you really want to stay in this relationship, then what I suggest you do, is have the father tell her that he will be recording all conversations with her, and DO IT. If she doesn't stop, file for custody.
Do a modification of the custody agreement, have it state she can not come to your residence unless she is dropping off/picking up the child. State that she can not call unless she is going to have a conversation pertaing to the welfare of the child, if she doesn't follow it, have her brought up on contempt charges.
Take a good look at the situation from both sides, his AND hers. Find out from both why it didn't work out. Maybe if you become "friends" with her she'll settle down. You threaten her, that's the reason she acts in the way she does.
If it doesn't look like things are going to change, I would do what IAAL and MSM suggest, get out. You don't want your future children in a situation like that do you?
[Edited by Ukiah on 02-23-2001 at 01:51 PM]