divorce and domestic violence

Wa

I am divorced and have been involved with someone for 5 years, he has a DV conviction for hitting a wall. The father of my children is attempting to use this against me to limit my time with our children or take them away entirely. The GAL stated in her recommedations that she wanted us to have mutual decision making and would hope on contiunity with the children. The GAL also stated during her interviews that the RCW codes state a history or pattern of DV, and she does not see this. Can my ex-husband do this.

[VeronicaGia]

He can try, it doesn't mean he will succeed. Is the DV conviction five years old?

The D.V. was in 1997, and the charges were reduced to harassment, but it is still called D.V. (he hit the wall). The Divorce itself just ended after 5 years of fighting, my husband was awarded our children, because the GAL thought I would "hinder" the visits our children would have with their father because of his sexual preference and cross-dressing activities.
This case has raised many an eyebrow, and I am still being told by the father that if I do what he wants, he won't put the children in Daycare and a new school. I am at a loss as to what to do. My boyfriend and I were together, in the same home, with temp. residential custody for 1 1/2 years....and the courts knew.
My boyfriend has really changed, if I thought for one minute he would harm me or my children, I would not have anything to do with him. He is great with all the kids were I live and he lives, there is always one little one hanging around him. He has no restrictions even with his own children. They say "Dad" has never hit us or mom., mom is just very mad at him. please, any advice would be great.. my children still ask why they can't be with me and my boyfriend. They still want to live with me, and want to know when someone will ask them what they want and listen.

Originally posted by VeronicaGia
He can try, it doesn't mean he will succeed. Is the DV conviction five years old?

I wish I understood the laws and wish they were fair. Everyone including experts PH.d and other attorneys can't understand why I lost my girls, my boyfriend wasn't an issue for the first year and half. Now, because I made issues of the father's sex--- preferences,(behavior) the GAL says that I would hinder the relationshiop the girls have with thier father. My boyfriend and I want to go on with our lives and enjoy the time with our children when we have it, but the father says he is in control now and i have to do what he want's or else.
????? My girls want to be with us and no one even cares,

[stephenk]

what does your attorney say about the matter? Does your attorney and the guardian ad litum know about the visitation and schooling threats being made by your ex?

[stealth2]

Originally posted by Jat
I wish I understood the laws and wish they were fair. Everyone including experts PH.d and other attorneys can't understand why I lost my girls, my boyfriend wasn't an issue for the first year and half. Now, because I made issues of the father's sex--- preferences,(behavior) the GAL says that I would hinder the relationshiop the girls have with thier father. My boyfriend and I want to go on with our lives and enjoy the time with our children when we have it, but the father says he is in control now and i have to do what he want's or else.
????? My girls want to be with us and no one even cares,

At which point the father made an issue of your b/f's history. That's the problem with pointing fingers and bringing up the other party's negative points - you often find them doing the same to you. If he's a good father, his cross-dressing really has little/nothing to do with his ability to parent your children.

My boyfriend and I lived together for 1 1/2 years with my two daugthers, I was the CP up until 2000. My concern has never been his cross dressing activities, it is the inappropriate behavior that they have witnessed. Our daughters made statements to a therapist, who in turn reported it to CPS, then everything got nasty. The father was ordered to not have any contact with the children and then it went to supervised visitation. This was ordered so that the GAL could do her investigation. At more than one point my girls stated that daddy wouldn't stop asking them questions about what is being said. It was reported to my attorney and the GAL, nothing was done, on one occassion our 7 year old now 9, said that mommy showed me how to draw the pictures of you naked. This turned everything around and I was accussed of manipulating and all kinds of things. I lost CP at that time, even after meeting with a PH.D and taking a polygraph, which proved I never did anything such thing, the GAL would not change her mind. When going to court on the matter she never even remembered the letter sent to her by my ex's attorney about the accusation, and she states that she never believed I did that any way. But that is what she told the court in 2000, but denies it in 2003??? My boyfriends DV , for hitting the wall is over 5 years old, my ex says that if he is in the picture, he will put the girls in another school and daycare. The GAL knows this but won't do anything about it, she just wants out. I told the GAL that I had done nothing wrong, and don't understand why I can't have my girls back, she just looks at me and says you can't fight homosexuality or transgender dressing?? I'm not, but you don't stand in the bathroom with the door ajar and rub a bra on your chest and touch your genitals.