Dna

thank you so much grace... it doesn't really relieve me, but i know these things have to be done... i knew all about the affair with this woman when it happened... i was told right away that she was pregnant.. all i could do was sit back and wait for the shoe to drop... although it has been 25 yrs., it was still a kick in the teeth... she was an "available" distraction while my husband was working in another state... the daughter , like i said , is now 25 yrs. old, married with a child of her own.. she just called out of the blue last wk and dedided she wanted to meet her birth father and insists she wants nothing from us, just to meet him. i told my husband it was entirely up to him what he did about it, so he went to meet her and her family. i knew that would not be enough to satisfy her and waited for the other shoe to drop. now , it has, and i fear for what she can take away from us now. yes , it is sad that they never got to know each other all these yrs. her mother had always told her who her father was, we just wondered why she never contacted us sooner.. you also have to understand my position, no i did not want to accept it, but i had no choice, i stayed blind to it though because i was pregnant myself at the time. at the age of 25, why does this girls mother have to make the court order? if he takes the test and is proven to be the father, can she put leins on things that we own jointly for support??? the daughter called this evening and asked him to come sunday to take this home test, she insists that the mother has to be present, he does not want to see her... my daughter had to have dna testing done on a father of her child in ohio and they did test her, the child, and the father, why is that neccessary to the mother? isn't she already proven the mother!?

[Grace_Adler]

Your welcome. I know this must be hard on everyone but just hang in there Ok, first ?...the mother would have to have the court order it because if she wanted to collect back child support (which I'm not even sure she can do) the money is owed to her for raising the child. So she would have to be the one to pursue it. She would have to get a court order established. Before they do that though, since they were never married and no affadavit of paternity was signed, they have to establish paternity. So the court would have one ordered. Then they would pursue collecting child support. (Like I said this may not even be possible you can always call a lawyer, magistrate,da or someone to find out)
Next...they will determine CS by their incomes well I don't know how it would work in this case. They can't put leins on anything at this point because an order has not been established. They would just start making him pay. If he was behind on a large amount of payments and he went to court several times for failure to pay then they might start looking at the lien option as well as revoking any licenses. And anything you have joint will be considered in determining the support as well as if he got behing on payments and they used liens. Alot of married people keep everything seperate for this reason. Just in case.
Next..I don't know how home DNA kits work. I've heard of them but don't know anything about one. In a DNA test done through a lab they don't have to have the mother present. I guess they just do it because it helps make the test more accurate and conclusive. The DNA home kit may not hold up in court anyway. It has to say that the test is approved by the court. Even some labs that it's done in have to be recognized by the court and accepted.
But like I said if you want to know more you can always contact one of the people I mentioned. Try not too stress too much. I hope this helps and good luck to all of you. Keep me posted.

[kat1963]

Sounds to me like biomom isn't sure who the father is. Sounds like she could have been a distraction to several as it doesn't seem like her moral values are very high (considering she went with a married man.) And to be honest, I wouldn't worry about any back child support. It was biomoms OBLIGATION (to the child) to see that paternity and support were established for the child (now adult), she did nothing therefore it was her burden to bear. It was her choice. Don't these women want to take responsibility for anything????

It's up to him if he wants to take the DNA test. If he doesn't, let them try to get a court order. The one taken outside of court order isn't going to count, it would have to be done again, if ordered at all. They probably know that support is a moot point and are just trying to figure out who Dad is. Biomom will probably be taking the test as well. There are different kinds ie: biodad & child, biodad, biomom & child ect...the list goes on. Here is an example of the one we took to determine if ss was DH's:
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Let us know how it goes!

KAT

[Shannon&Fuad]

Ideally a paternity test analyzes specimens from the mother, the child and the alleged father.
If the mother is unavailable for testing, the test can still be performed without her, but may cost a little more.
The mother is used to identify the parts of the child's DNA that came from the mother (they match up). This shows that the remaining parts of the child's DNA had to come from the biological father, so what to compare to the tested man is known.
Without the mother, parts of the child's DNA from the biological father are unknown and additional testing may be nessecary for accurate results.
The paternity test can be performed without the mother. A "motherless" test is not as accurate as the same test with the mother.
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thank you shannon, that was most helpful....

[Shannon&Fuad]

YOUR very WELCOME!
Shannon