domestic partner

[maw28409]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC
My partner and I have been together a little over 5 years. I think we're about to break up - he's cheating. When we first got together, we moved to Wilmington NC and bought a house together. He got a VA loan (he's former military) in his name, so my name is nowhere on the home. After me singlehandedly paying the mortgage for two years (he is partly disabled and doesn't work,) I know if/when we break up he will want to sell the house. (We had a fight once and he threatened to sell the house out from under me.) My credit sucks, thanks to stupid decisions made in college (many years ago.) I have looked into mortgages on my own, but don't have the credit to get one. If I've been the one paying for two years, do I have any recourse? I don't want to lose what I've worked so hard to keep.

 

[cracker]

Common law marriage is not recognized in nc and cohabitation is not legal. You probably won't have any recourse. From what I have heard, (and I guess I could be wrong) those are just the consequenses of "playing house" You could try to sue him, but since you were living there too, it will just be considered paying your share. My advise? Marry the little turd, suck it up for a few years, then divorce him.

 

[maw28409]

Domestic partner

We cannot get married. There are only a couple states that would let us, and NC is not one of them.

 

[cracker]

Just curious, but why can't you get married?

 

[Zephyr]

Just curious, but why can't you get married?

because they are both men




OP...did you and your partner ever have an written or oral agreements regarding the house?

 

[cracker]

well that explains it then. my bad.

 

[maw28409]

We filed domestic partnership papers, for one of my work benefits. That was a few years ago, and I no longer carry that benefit (having changed jobs.) I've contacted that company regarding getting a copy of that form, but so far have not received anything. As I recall it was a simple form, stating that we live together in a mutually exclusive, non-related-by-blood relationship and had for a certain amount of time, with the intent of doing so indefinitely. I don't think any mention was made specifically of the house.