Domestic Violence Victim of a different sort

[Chelle Ford 67]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TN-
I have a serious problem, this is not your typical DV case, I am 41 years old with 2 grown children and 50 year old fiancee and a 73 year old mother. I purchased a home and added my mother to the mortgage to give her peace of mind that she would 'have a home' moreso so she would not feel like she was living 'with' me and giving her the feeling of us living 'together' as this is a VERY important issue with her. My youngest sister has always been the type to emotionally and physically abuse those closest to her this is the main reason why my mother moved in with me to begin with but I digress...Over the last few months, since she found out that my fiancee was moving in to the household we've had numerous expensive items stolen from our home just as a coincidence it always seems to happen when my sister and her family come to visit. (two digital cameras, 2 PS3 games, movies, and a computer) tonight she came by to see my mother and she began harassing me and my fiancee, screaming obscenities, calling us pretty disgusting names and threatening to hit me in the mouth and eventually knocking some items from the top of the fridge to hit my fiancee in the head. I did push her away from me when she reached toward my fiancee like she was going to hit him. (he's had 3 strokes in 5 years and is affected on his right side.) She continued to scream for him to hit her and he replied that she was not worth it, all she was was a "worthless sonofab*t*h." She immediately called 911 abd said she'd been assaulted by my fiancee because he called her that name. (never mind all the cursing and filth that came from her mouth) It seems a couple of years ago she had a verbal altercation at a gas station and a police officer told her that was considered assault. Needless to say the police was called by her and she told them I had shoved her and he had cursed her. My mother has apparently lost all sense God gave her and she lied to the officers and said that my sisters hand slipped on top of the fridge and knocked the stuff off at my fiancee's head. At any rate reports were filed and they said to give it until Wed of next week before my fiancee can file charges against my sister and they did not know if I could get a order of protection or if he could since my home is in both mine and my mothers name. She will of course contest the fact that I am even considering this and is now very angry at my fiancee for calling "her child a sonofab*t*h" My question is this...Will an order of protection 'stick' since both mine and my mothers name is on the deed? As of now the plans are loosely this: mother is moving into my sisters rental property. When, i don't know all i can hope is that it will be soon. Now I am concerned that she and my sister will concoct a lie against my fiancee while I am at work or school. I need some sound advice..What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by Chelle Ford 67

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TN-
I have a serious problem, this is not your typical DV case, I am 41 years old with 2 grown children and 50 year old fiancee and a 73 year old mother. I purchased a home and added my mother to the mortgage to give her peace of mind that she would 'have a home' moreso so she would not feel like she was living 'with' me and giving her the feeling of us living 'together' as this is a VERY important issue with her. My youngest sister has always been the type to emotionally and physically abuse those closest to her this is the main reason why my mother moved in with me to begin with but I digress...Over the last few months, since she found out that my fiancee was moving in to the household we've had numerous expensive items stolen from our home just as a coincidence it always seems to happen when my sister and her family come to visit. (two digital cameras, 2 PS3 games, movies, and a computer) tonight she came by to see my mother and she began harassing me and my fiancee, screaming obscenities, calling us pretty disgusting names and threatening to hit me in the mouth and eventually knocking some items from the top of the fridge to hit my fiancee in the head. I did push her away from me when she reached toward my fiancee like she was going to hit him. (he's had 3 strokes in 5 years and is affected on his right side.) She continued to scream for him to hit her and he replied that she was not worth it, all she was was a "worthless sonofab*t*h." She immediately called 911 abd said she'd been assaulted by my fiancee because he called her that name. (never mind all the cursing and filth that came from her mouth) It seems a couple of years ago she had a verbal altercation at a gas station and a police officer told her that was considered assault. Needless to say the police was called by her and she told them I had shoved her and he had cursed her. My mother has apparently lost all sense God gave her and she lied to the officers and said that my sisters hand slipped on top of the fridge and knocked the stuff off at my fiancee's head. At any rate reports were filed and they said to give it until Wed of next week before my fiancee can file charges against my sister and they did not know if I could get a order of protection or if he could since my home is in both mine and my mothers name. She will of course contest the fact that I am even considering this and is now very angry at my fiancee for calling "her child a sonofab*t*h" My question is this...Will an order of protection 'stick' since both mine and my mothers name is on the deed? As of now the plans are loosely this: mother is moving into my sisters rental property. When, i don't know all i can hope is that it will be soon. Now I am concerned that she and my sister will concoct a lie against my fiancee while I am at work or school. I need some sound advice..What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Do you have any idea what a mistake it was to put your mother on your home's deed and mortgage?

My advice, for your fiances safety, is for him to NOT be in the house when you are not home...and perhaps to move out entirely until your mother moves.

Lock up your valuables as well.