What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Purchased in California. State of residency and location for ending an engagement is HI.
First, thank you all in advance for your expertise during this stressful period in my life.
State Law. I purchased the engagement ring in CA and ended the engagement HI.
-Which state's law will apply to settling financial disputes?
Engagement Ring, Loan, Gift. I'm an idiot; the engagement ring costs as much as a new car. The only saving face is that I didn't take a loan out due to some lucky investments. Thus, small claims court is sadly not an option. I also "loaned" her (I said), "gift" (she said), another amount of money greater than small claims court allowance. I know, I'm double the idiot but luckily it was cash on hand due to the aforementioned investments. I have evidence supporting the engagement ring value and the amount of the "loan".
-Can I combine both amounts into a single lawsuit?
-Can I obtain text message records from my cellular company within the last six months ago that may have evidence of "loan" versus "gift"?
Reasons for ending engagement. I ended it for three reasons and it's NOT due to infidelity on either party: arguing, negativity, and "something" else that potentially has criminal implications for her. I do not want to see her get arrested but suspect I may have to state the "something" in a lawsuit. The "something" is the primary reason for ending the engagement. Also, I have evidence regarding the three reasons mentioned above. Lastly, we have both initiated the end of our engagement in the past six months, and sadly got back together again.
-What other legitimate reasons, besides "infidelity", must the purchaser of the ring prove in court when applicable to certain state laws?
Therapy. We have spent ample time with two relationship counselors in the past year, mainly one of them, trying to fix our relationship. The second couselor is aware of why I ended the engagement. The first counselor we could not discuss the "something" due to legal reporting obligations. The second counselor did not have this obligation so he is fully aware of our problems.
-Can I subpoena or obtain any notes he may have on our counseling sessions since they could be used as evidence?
In summary, I make poor financial decisions and appreciate your insight. On principle, I am determined to get some money back, preferably simply the ring. Lastly, I've left out the state, "loan"/"gift" item, and "something" in case she's googling these same questions. I know, I'm paranoid, but I look forward to moving past this emotional state with your help. Thanks in advance.
-W
First, thank you all in advance for your expertise during this stressful period in my life.
State Law. I purchased the engagement ring in CA and ended the engagement HI.
-Which state's law will apply to settling financial disputes?
Engagement Ring, Loan, Gift. I'm an idiot; the engagement ring costs as much as a new car. The only saving face is that I didn't take a loan out due to some lucky investments. Thus, small claims court is sadly not an option. I also "loaned" her (I said), "gift" (she said), another amount of money greater than small claims court allowance. I know, I'm double the idiot but luckily it was cash on hand due to the aforementioned investments. I have evidence supporting the engagement ring value and the amount of the "loan".
-Can I combine both amounts into a single lawsuit?
-Can I obtain text message records from my cellular company within the last six months ago that may have evidence of "loan" versus "gift"?
Reasons for ending engagement. I ended it for three reasons and it's NOT due to infidelity on either party: arguing, negativity, and "something" else that potentially has criminal implications for her. I do not want to see her get arrested but suspect I may have to state the "something" in a lawsuit. The "something" is the primary reason for ending the engagement. Also, I have evidence regarding the three reasons mentioned above. Lastly, we have both initiated the end of our engagement in the past six months, and sadly got back together again.
-What other legitimate reasons, besides "infidelity", must the purchaser of the ring prove in court when applicable to certain state laws?
Therapy. We have spent ample time with two relationship counselors in the past year, mainly one of them, trying to fix our relationship. The second couselor is aware of why I ended the engagement. The first counselor we could not discuss the "something" due to legal reporting obligations. The second counselor did not have this obligation so he is fully aware of our problems.
-Can I subpoena or obtain any notes he may have on our counseling sessions since they could be used as evidence?
In summary, I make poor financial decisions and appreciate your insight. On principle, I am determined to get some money back, preferably simply the ring. Lastly, I've left out the state, "loan"/"gift" item, and "something" in case she's googling these same questions. I know, I'm paranoid, but I look forward to moving past this emotional state with your help. Thanks in advance.
-W
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