Family Finances

[Zaxx]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT

First off, I'd like to say hello, this is my first post here.

I am in need of legal advice on how to demand financial information from my husband. He claims to be paying the bills, however I recently discovered a "Power Shut-Off" notice in the mail. I saw this and checked some of the other bills, and found that none had been paid for 3 months (medical, credit, telephone, etc).

Previously he had purposely been dragging his feet on bills, letting them run over then paying them off. I feel he is purposely trying to create financial pressure. He makes enough money to own a 2-million dollar house (and was paying for it fine), however, after our relationship deteriorated, he's been restricting money and not paying bills. He hasn't had any job position changes, and is working the same hours. What I want to know is where is he putting his money. He gave me a photoshopped version of his bank information, which really doesn't help.

Is there any legal way I can forcibly get his finances?

[Dogmatique]

Originally Posted by Zaxx

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CT

First off, I'd like to say hello, this is my first post here.

I am in need of legal advice on how to demand financial information from my husband. He claims to be paying the bills, however I recently discovered a "Power Shut-Off" notice in the mail. I saw this and checked some of the other bills, and found that none had been paid for 3 months (medical, credit, telephone, etc).

Previously he had purposely been dragging his feet on bills, letting them run over then paying them off. I feel he is purposely trying to create financial pressure. He makes enough money to own a 2-million dollar house (and was paying for it fine), however, after our relationship deteriorated, he's been restricting money and not paying bills. He hasn't had any job position changes, and is working the same hours. What I want to know is where is he putting his money. He gave me a photoshopped version of his bank information, which really doesn't help.

Is there any legal way I can forcibly get his finances?

Have there been any court orders at all?

Are you actually divorced?

Are you contributing to the bills?

[Zaxx]

Have there been any court orders at all? Don't know?

Are you actually divorced? No, but that's coming...

Are you contributing to the bills? Not any more. Previously I would pay for my share; however, after having a child, I was told I could stay home and take care of her. I then got injured and became unable to work for a long period, and lost my job. After this, it became apparent he only liked a "working woman" who could pull her own weight.

Instead of helping me get better, he's been restricting me financially to the point where I can't buy food sometimes. My 82 year old mother has helped me out with my medical bills, however. As for the electricity, credit cards, and medical bills, they are his and it's suspicious that he wouldn't pay his own bills (even if he won't pay mine).

As I said before, he was debt free aside from his house, and was easily paying that off. I have a feeling he's trying to make himself look financially stressed for the divorce court, so I would like to get his financial information to find out what he's really doing with his money instead of paying bills.

[Ohiogal]

Anything been filed? Have you looked for a job? Filed for disability? Done anything to support yourself since you separated from him? Filed for child support?

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by Zaxx

As for the electricity, credit cards, and medical bills, they are his and it's suspicious that he wouldn't pay his own bills (even if he won't pay mine).

If you've used the electricity, credit cards or the medical... the bills are yours too.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by CourtClerk

If you've used the electricity, credit cards or the medical... the bills are yours too.

Her point is that the bills are in HIS name, nothing has changed with his job or his income, yet he is allowing his own credit to get muddied by not paying them.

That is odd, to say the least.

[Ohiogal]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

Her point is that the bills are in HIS name, nothing has changed with his job or his income, yet he is allowing his own credit to get muddied by not paying them.

That is odd, to say the least.

He is allowed to do that. She is still responsible for trying to support herself.

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by LdiJ

Her point is that the bills are in HIS name, nothing has changed with his job or his income, yet he is allowing his own credit to get muddied by not paying them.

That is odd, to say the least.

I get what her point is, but he's allowed to do with his credit what he wants to... who cares why he's doing it? It's his business. If she wants the bills paid, she better make an attempt to pay them before she's sitting in the dark.

[Zaxx]

That is correct, I do use the electricity. I'm going to be forced to pay for that one, because I can't have the electricity shut off. Yes, I am on disability, but it's not nearly enough to support myself or my child.

So, what you're saying is, I'm not legally allowed to demand any finances of his?

[CourtClerk]

Originally Posted by Zaxx

That is correct, I do use the electricity. I'm going to be forced to pay for that one, because I can't have the electricity shut off. Yes, I am on disability, but it's not nearly enough to support myself or my child.

So, what you're saying is, I'm not legally allowed to demand any finances of his?

You can demand anything you want. Until a court orders him to do anything, he doesn't HAVE to do anything, including listening to your demands. Or he can listen and choose to ignore you.

You sound appalled that you will be "forced" to pay for the electricity that you use...

[Zaxx]

Okay, thank you for the help.

I'm not really sure how text can be given a "sound," but that's not at all what I was implying. Not really relevant to the topic either. I apologize if it sounded that way, however.