Family law on 19 year old girl

What is the name of your state? NY
What are the laws for parents that have a 19 year old that will not follow rules in there home or respect them in any way. She moved out once on us and moved back with the same behavior. Comes home at night after we're asleep. Sleeps all day, showers, does everything she needs to do and leaves again before we get home from work. Lost her job, has bills. What are our rights? Please help.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally posted by iy25i
What is the name of your state? NY
What are the laws for parents that have a 19 year old that will not follow rules in there home or respect them in any way. She moved out once on us and moved back with the same behavior. Comes home at night after we're asleep. Sleeps all day, showers, does everything she needs to do and leaves again before we get home from work. Lost her job, has bills. What are our rights? Please help.

My response:

"Rights" about what?

She was "out" once, and you voluntarily took her back in - - knowing what your daughter was like. What good would it be discussing this with you, when all you're going to do is let her back in the house again!

Good luck.

IAAL

[nextwife]

And change the locks so she has to grovel if she wants to use the house!

Ask her to leave or to abide by your rules.

Only about a year or two ag I was in the same situation but it was on the other side. It was ME that had returned home, and ME that started disrespecting my parents home in the same manor that your daughter is doing. I know now that what I did and how I acted was wrong, direspectful, and unacceptable.
I am 21 now and am a parent and i look at things a little differently. I am now living 3000 miles away from my parents, and I miss them very much, and every time I write a letter to my mom back home in CA I apologise for giving her such a hard time. I now have a pregnant 19 year old sister that is doing the same to my parents. And I have tried talking to her about it and telling her, that she is wrong in doing this but her nly response is that I am a hypocrite because I did those things too. My sister although is only 19 and pregnant, has an associates degree in business, and is an insurance agent making almost $30 an hour. She can certainly afford her own apartment, but my parents cannot bring themselves to kick her out. My point is that, my parents never kicked me out as much as they complained about what I was doing to them, I finally got a job and back on my feet and moved out. It was only that I became a parent myself and now see my sister doing what I did that I know it was wrong. My advice is set some ground rules with your "kid" and say obey them or get out.
They may thank you for this later.
good luck
leo

I am all for kicking her out if she doesn't abide by my rules however I want to know from anyone if they can tell me if we are responsible for her actions until she is 21 because we live in New York State? That means bills vandalism, anything.

At 18 she became an adult in the eyes of the law, so you are not responsible for her actions. Kick her out.

[stealth2]

Deleted due to incorrect info.

[JETX]

"NY's age of majority is 21, so the legalities may be different."
*** WRONG!!!

The NY General Obligations Law (§3-112) defines a "minor" or "infant" to be "a person who has not attained the age of eighteen years."
Source: [url]http://assembly.state.ny.us/leg/?cl=49&a=6[/url]

In this case, the parents would NOT be liable for the described conduct of the 'adult'.

There is always the "Brazilian" option

[HomeGuru]

Yes, I liked that bossa nova option.

[nextwife]

NY merely has one pay CS for them until they are 21. Intact families, I believe, are allowed to stop supporting them at 18.

OR should you book those tickets to Brazil?

[JETX]

Yep, just as I suspected. Someone is reading the age for 'child support' to stop (21 in NY) and confusing that with the age for criminal liability (18 in NY).
They are NOT the same.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

[quote]Originally posted by hexeliebe


There is always the "Brazilian" option

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My response:

. . . which, of course, is the "Good Housekeeping" preferred method of dealing with thankless children - - of ANY age.

IAAL

[stealth2]

Originally posted by JETX
Yep, just as I suspected. Someone is reading the age for 'child support' to stop (21 in NY) and confusing that with the age for criminal liability (18 in NY).
They are NOT the same.

Hence the "may" in there.

[JETX]

Originally posted by stealth2
Hence the "may" in there.

Nice attempt at 'spin', but it simply does NOT work when looked at entirely.

Ramoth said, "At 18 she became an adult in the eyes of the law, so you are not responsible for her actions. Kick her out.

And in response, YOU said:
"NY's age of majority is 21, so the legalities may be different. I'd talk to a local attorney to find out what you need to do to have her legally emancipated and evicted from your home."

Simply, your post was NOT correct and clearly was confusing the issue of child support obligation and criminal liability ages.