father's girl during visitation

What is the name of your state? massachusetts

Do I have the right to not allow future ex-husband mistress to be around while he is spending time with the kids.

no, unless you can prove she is a danger to the child.

Depends, would you want him to keep anyone you're seeing, dating, etc. to stay away while you have the kids? You're being petty, get on with your life. Unless she is a danger (i.e. habitual drunk, felon, etc) there is no judge who will allow it. Remember, anything you do to him, he can do to you.

[withonel]

Your ex should have the good sense not to introduce the children to a new partner until they have had time to adjust to the two of you being apart. However, if he doesn't then there isn't much you can do legally unless she poses a danger to them.
You can make the transition easier for your children by not bad mouthing your ex or his partners in front of your children. Don't make them feel that being polite and respectful of this adult is somehow dishonoring you. Love them and let them love their father.

[stealth2]

Originally posted by withonel
Don't make them feel that being polite and respectful of this adult is somehow dishonoring you.

Yes! Much as I wasn't fond of several of my ex's flavors of the month, I have always made it clear that I expect - at the VERY least - that they be polite and well-behaved with any adult. I don't care who they are: "I cannot make you like people, I cannot make you be friends with people - but I can insist that you behave in a manner that does not embarrass yourselves OR me. If I ever hear that you were rude to any of your father's friends, you will not only have to deal with however your father disciplines you - you will have to deal with me. And I can guarantee you won't find it amusing."

[VeronicaGia]

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