A father's right! Help!

YOUR STATE NAME - California
I have been having problems with my son's mother and her parenting methods. A few weeks ago I received a call from my's son's principal to try and schedule a meeting with her, my son's 6th grade teacher, the school nurse and a child pshycologist. It seems my son has been tardy daily, has missed many days of school and his school performance has been suffering, and they attribute this directly to his mother, which is why they now involved me. Previous attempts to relay this info to his mother have been ignored, it seems that his mother feels that the school is the problem and everyone is against her and my son. According to the pshycologist, who has met with both of them, my son's mom has serious mental issues, which is not news to me. My son's mom has served me with a restraining order for me to stay away from him until the hearing because she became furious when I spoke to my son in front of his teacher to discuss his problems. Needless to say, the school has had enough with his mother's attitude and they plan on helping me as much as they can when I attend court, starting with his attendence records. I plan to ask the court to have child services get involved because I do not have a good relationship at all with his mother and I cannot help him any longer with out ending up in court. I plan to use her mental condition, but it won't be easy to prove. What other tools can I take with me to get some leverage on my case. Help!

I would 1st ask.. " are you a constant in this child's Life", and Why ? .. and how did things get to the point of the teacher and school pyschologist (what a joke, in my own experience), contacting you as a Last Ditch Effort if the School had his best effort at Heart all along?? Why wait till the childs education and natural procedure is in Dire Straights?? Word's..... just like I am typing, are cheap, We can all say things against another, and it always ends up that those that are accused, are the ones to defend themselves to anybody, and any "weirdo" that chooses to throw false information," to cover their own inadaquite" duties. Do they trully have the TRUE and real reason's that in combination has caused all the So Called "Do Gooder's" accusations????
I speak from experience, and quite frankly .... It all scares me

I can relate with you. I can't stand these people who respond and are so rude! We are dealing with a lot of the same issues with my 7 year old step-son. The school started calling us because they couldn't get anywhere with his mother. But since we have no legal custody, we can't really do anything. He is doing badly in school. He has something wrong with his motor skills and she keeps saying there is nothing wrong. The school even says there is something wrong. They did a bunch of testing and couldn't find anything wrong with his ability to learn - but if you just watch him walk or run or try to write, you can see something is wrong. We can't take him to any doctors. She is supposed to do physical therapy with him every day and she doesn't. He dresses badly. While she drives a new car. She got fired from her job and is just living on child support from us and her ex-husband (she has 2 children - by different men). I feel that if she helped make this child - she needs to work and pay half of what it takes to care for him. If she can live on just child support - then it needs to be lowered. Since we do pay $350 / month, we can't afford a lawyer to fight for custody. Friend of court doesn't care though, as long as the child is alive. It makes me sick to my stomache sometimes thinking about all this. He has to share a bedroom with his sister. And now him mom is getting married again and his four young daughters will be moving into their tiny two bedroom house. What can people like us do? He would be so much better off with us - but she would never give him to us because she would lose the child support money. (and thats the only reason). He administers his own daily medicine at 7 years old - she doesn't ever know when he is out. We also think she may be doing drugs because she lost so much weight so fast and always looks terrible. Sorry to ramble on - its just so frustrating that nobody really seems to look out for the child's best interest. If you get any helpful responses, feel free to pass them along.