Final Copy To Dad-Suggestions?????

What is the name of your state? Maryland

Thanks for everyones advice. I just want dad to stop lieing on me. If he come to get him fine, if he don't...fine. I am tired of him putting the blame in the wrong place...on me.

On Wednesday, July 3, 2002 you came to my home to inquire about a letter you received in reference to a review for a possible increase in child support payments. While in my home, you stated that I withheld (SON) M. Yancey from you for 13 ½ months out of spite or retaliation. During the time period of May 16, 2001 thru July 3, 2002 you failed to contact me to set up any time with our son. You failed to contact me to even check on the well being of our son. During the above mentioned time period, you have been to the school a few times to speak to (SON), but you did not arrive at his school on your scheduled days to pick him up for visitation as the decree states. To my knowledge, you have also never met with his teacher about his progress in school. I contacted you in the afternoon of Saturday, June 8, 2002 to inform you of his graduation date and time. You took (SON) with you in the afternoon of Friday, June 14, 2002, after graduation, to purchase clothes and shoes and returned him home the same evening. In addition, you also took son with you in the afternoon of Monday, June 17, 2002 and returned him home the same evening. Your court ordered visitation was set for every other Thursday and Friday in which you chose those days. (SON) was to be picked up after school and returned to my home each evening, and we agreed to no overnights. After the court ordered visitation was set, I told you that you could pick (SON) up any other day and time that you wanted. The only thing I asked you to do was call me at least 2 days ahead of time to let me know what time you want to pick him up if it is not a scheduled visitation day. You have never done that. It is unrealist for you to want him at the last minute. On July 3, 2002 you came to my home upset regarding child support. You request son on the next day of July 4, 2002. I told you this was not possible. Please understand this was due to the fact we already had plans and had you given me more notice I would have been happy to work with you to set up visitation. I placed a called to you on your cell phone the evening of Wednesday, July 3, 2002, at 9:40 p.m. You did not answer, so I left you a voice message stating that this week was not your visitation week, but I told you the following week it would be. In that message, I asked you to call me the following Wednesday evening (July 10th) to let me know what time you will pick (SON) up on Thursday (July 11th). You failed to call me to inform me of anything in reference to Thursday or Friday. I took him to work with me both days so that he would still be available just in case you called at the last minute. You still did not call to let me know if you were or were not picking him up. (SON) called you and informed you that I let him have my old cell phone number since you have stated that I don’t let him call you. You also stated that you don’t call him because you rather not speak to me or hear my voice. He told you that you could reach him at XXX-XXX-XXXX from now on. It has been a week and you have not returned his call. Although (SON) has that number now, you can still call the number to inform me of a visitation pick up and drop off time. To conclude, I am doing everything possible from my end to enhance your relationship with our son, and to maintain an amicable relationship between his parents. The responsibility to call our son and to maintain visitation, however, remains yours alone. In the future, I would appreciate it that you call me the evening prior to visitation with a pickup and drop off time. In addition, I also ask that you call me to let me know when you will not be able to make it as well. I have never denied you your time with our son nor have I ever stopped him from calling you. He has always been free to call you whenever he wants. I would hope that in the future we could discuss matters pertaining to (SON) rationally. He was very upset by your tone and actions when you were in our home on Wednesday, July 3, 2002.

Your X may be saying that you are at blame. However your son sees just what is going on. He also sees that you are giving (X) room to move around to fit his timetable in giving an open door for him on visitation.
In giving your son a Cell Phone was an outstanding move on your part. For the boy well remember what you did to keep the commotion line open for him and his Father,
NEVER talk down about X in front of or to the son for he will remember that for life!!
You have done all that you can to keep the line open between them. So tonight hold you son with all the love you have for him and rest your mined to the fact that your X is just that an X
God bless you and keep you both safe and loving.