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What is the name of your state? Colorado
I have a few questions to regarding rather I can file for duress, mental anguish, harassemnt, etc
My son passed away Sept 4, 2002 at the VA hospital in Denver, CO. He had cancer. I was not called until after he had died and then it was a message on my phone from my older son stating my middle son had died and I should come to the hospital. I lived exactly 2 blocks from the hospital so I should have been informed immediately. My tele# was on the bulletin board in my son’s room and his wife and my ex husband knew it was there. That is not the issue. My son lived in Lakin, Ks so his funeral was held there. I went to Lakin Sept. 8th with my husband and we stayed at one of the 2 motels in the town. My youngest daughter, who lives in Lakin, and my youngest son, who lives in Denver came by to see me at the hotel. Also, my sister who lived in OK, came by to check up on me. The family knew I was in town as they had seen my name and my husbands name on the book at the funeral home. The funeral was held Wed., Sept 10, at 10am, in Lakin at the Methodist Church. The family was to be there at 9am to view the body one more time. As my husband and I were walking to the door of the church, my oldest daughter and my ex husband’s wife came out to meet me. The said I could go to the funeral but my husband was not allowed. I must tell you at this time that:
1. I have a heart condition and my husband of 18 years was staying close to me at this time for fear of my health.
2. My husband had been released from prison 08/01. He had served his time for a Lewd Molestation charge. He had completed his time….Had registered with Colo and has had no issue or concerns since he came out. There are no restrictions to his release.
3. If I had been informed that they did not want my husband there before Wed am, I could have made other arrangements. Instead they blind-sided me with this and I was unable to attend my son’s funeral. They told me I could do what ‘they said’ and to think of my son’s wife. My son and his wife had been married for only 2 years. He has been my son for 30 years and 2 days. My son’s wife has never meet Ken and we were going to be in a church with others for my son’s funeral. What was going to happen?
Because of this I had to leave, as I did not want to make a scene at the church. It was all in respect for my son. I never had the chance to properly say ‘good bye’. My husband and I talked about going to the local police so we could go but I was then too upset. We decided just to go back to Denver. There are many other circumstances to this. I had been at the hospital the morning my son died. At that time, he was doing great. We had talked about several things and my son had stated he wanted this to be a ‘great Christmas’ as he knew it would probably be his last. Mu son’s father and I did not always seen eye to eye and my son wanted us to bury the hatchet so we could all spend this holiday together. My son said that he had spoke to his Dad and told him he wanted to ‘run something by him’ but didn’t get the chance, as he wanted to talk with his Dad alone as he did with me. My son told me he wanted us to all get together. He knew that I forgave my husband for his fault and that we should just all get together in Lakin this year. He had been with his Dad for his b’day week-end, 09/02/02 and said it would have been nice of all of us could have been there. My son then asked me to talk with his Dad. When my son’s father got to the hospital that day, I asked him 2 or 3 times to give me a call. I also reminded him about my tele # on the board in my son’s room. He has never called. My life has not been perfect but neither has the rest of the family. Is there anything I can do? | 
09-22-2002, 09:01 PM
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