He's An Accidental Bigamist

[legallylostone]

What is the name of your state? Alabama/ New York
This is a long story, but I will try to shorten it. I was in the Navy and met my future husband there. We married in Alabama (my home state) and he was sent to Saudi Arabia. During that time, he was led to believe I was trying to get a divorce. My family did not like him nor approve of our marriage and did a lot of things to keep us apart. He believed I divorced him , but I never did. I tried to find him for 15 years and finally did last month. He has remarried and has 2 children. When he found out that I didn't leave him or get a divorce, he said he wants to reunite, but doesn't want to jeopardize his relationship with his two young children. He says he thought we divorced and would never have remarried if he had known the truth. His home state is New York and I still live in Alabama. I am under the impression that since he didn't know he was committing bigamy, he can get an annullment and not worry about legal issues, except regarding custody of his children. Is this true?

[BelizeBreeze]

I have only one response to all of this:

BULLCRAP!!!!!!!!

[stealth2]

Oh brother. So you and he would happily break up his curent family?

[panzertanker]

OhBullship!!!!!

[ENASNI]

Somebody just read The Notebook, or Bridges of Madison County.

heck, screw the kids... its true love isn't it... after 15 years no less... wow... can't wait for the made for tv movie.

[legallylostone]

I'm sorry, I thought I was posting to a Legal Advice forum. I didn't realize I was asking to be morally judged. You don't know me nor do you know the entire situation. I simply asked a legal question. If I had known the people on this forum could be so cruel, I wouldn't have bothered.

[rmet4nzkx]

Just how hard did you look for him during the 15 years? Did you file for divorce and just not finalize it? Why did he think he was divorced? You provide no facts, that is why you go the response you received. Do you honestly believe that he should leave his family for you?

[BelizeBreeze]

Originally Posted by legallylostone

I'm sorry, I thought I was posting to a Legal Advice forum. I didn't realize I was asking to be morally judged. You don't know me nor do you know the entire situation. I simply asked a legal question. If I had known the people on this forum could be so cruel, I wouldn't have bothered.

Then don't bother. You are either incredibly naieve of just plain stupid. He, on the other hand, is a bigamist, plain and simple and his current marriage is null and void.

And if you buy his "I didn't know we were still married" line, then I have some real estate about 15 miles off the coast of Florida I'll sell you.

[zippysgoddess]

I've got some ocean front property in Arizona,
from my front porch you can see the sea.
I've got some ocean front property in Arizona,
if you'll buy that I'll throw the Golden Gate in free!

(George Strait said it best!)

[ablessin]

I would like to know how he got married the 2nd time without divorce papers from his first marriage.

I have to phycially take my divorce papers with me when I go to apply for a marriage license again, and so does my fience.

So did my mother, etc****************************.....

How did he get a marriage license ???

yeah, a tv movie **************this is no mistake************** he could have found YOU!!! He knew where you lived (about anyway) he obviously knew your name, etc.

This was no mistake - he just never in a jillion years thought you'd catch up with him.

[ktagseth]

He needs to talk to a lawyer in his home state and get information on annulment. As far as I am learning lately, it seems annulments in many states afford for property division, child custody and the such. The fact that he was legally married to you at the time makes his current marriage void and not legal, though his current spouse of sorts has rights and if he does indeed intend to be with you, he needs to fix his legal matters and arrange custody and financial matters with the mother of his children. He would not be guilty of legal bigamy without proving he knowingly married another while knowingly being married--he did the act, not the intent...but truly a family law attorney is needed, as well as soul searching on both your parts, as others are involved and people will be hurt, annulment or not. Good luck.

[soon2bstep]

yes george strait said it best and i love that song! i always tell my fiance that phrase, or that i know where he can find a desperately hot desert in florida whenever he lies about something lol......

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by ktagseth

He needs to talk to a lawyer in his home state and get information on annulment. As far as I am learning lately, it seems annulments in many states afford for property division, child custody and the such. The fact that he was legally married to you at the time makes his current marriage void and not legal, though his current spouse of sorts has rights and if he does indeed intend to be with you, he needs to fix his legal matters and arrange custody and financial matters with the mother of his children. He would not be guilty of legal bigamy without proving he knowingly married another while knowingly being married--he did the act, not the intent...but truly a family law attorney is needed, as well as soul searching on both your parts, as others are involved and people will be hurt, annulment or not. Good luck.

Originally Posted by soon2bstep

yes george strait said it best and i love that song! i always tell my fiance that phrase, or that i know where he can find a desperately hot desert in florida whenever he lies about something lol......

Why are the two of you posting to a thread that is almost 3 years old? I realize that the two of you are fairly new, but we don't bring up posts this old. The OP is loooooooong gone.

[seniorjudge]

Necroposting?

Is it Halloween already?

[Rushia]

Originally Posted by seniorjudge

Necroposting?

Is it Halloween already?

What are you going to be this year?