JJKitty01.03
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Wisconsin
In 2000 my live in boyfriend and I had a baby - while in the hospital he filled out the papers to establish paternity.
In 2003 we parted ways - it was a friendly split. We did not go to court for visitation or support as we had always agreed on these kinds of things so we didn't feel it was necessary.
In 2008 my british boyfriend proposed marriage and asked me to move to Britain to live with him. I did not accept the proposal right away -- I was not going to if it meant that I would have to leave my child behind. I spoke with my ex about it and he thought about it for a few weeks then finally said that yes, the child could go to live in Britain with me.
Since we had never gone to court for anything in the past we didn't feel it necessary now either as we were in agreement that the child could move overseas.
The British Government, however, did require proof that the father gave his permission. We wrote something up stating that permission was granted, and what the terms and conditions are (which basically outlined the communication and visitation they would have - which has been adhered to completely) and had it notarized with both of our signatures. We made 3 copies, 1 for the British Consulate, and 1 for each of us.
Now, 1 year after we made the move, the father has decided that he changed his mind and he no longer wants our child to live overseas. The child is with him now visiting for the summer but he is saying he will not send him home at the end of summer. The father says that there is nothing I can do about this as we never went through the court systems.
Is this true? What should I do next?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
In 2000 my live in boyfriend and I had a baby - while in the hospital he filled out the papers to establish paternity.
In 2003 we parted ways - it was a friendly split. We did not go to court for visitation or support as we had always agreed on these kinds of things so we didn't feel it was necessary.
In 2008 my british boyfriend proposed marriage and asked me to move to Britain to live with him. I did not accept the proposal right away -- I was not going to if it meant that I would have to leave my child behind. I spoke with my ex about it and he thought about it for a few weeks then finally said that yes, the child could go to live in Britain with me.
Since we had never gone to court for anything in the past we didn't feel it necessary now either as we were in agreement that the child could move overseas.
The British Government, however, did require proof that the father gave his permission. We wrote something up stating that permission was granted, and what the terms and conditions are (which basically outlined the communication and visitation they would have - which has been adhered to completely) and had it notarized with both of our signatures. We made 3 copies, 1 for the British Consulate, and 1 for each of us.
Now, 1 year after we made the move, the father has decided that he changed his mind and he no longer wants our child to live overseas. The child is with him now visiting for the summer but he is saying he will not send him home at the end of summer. The father says that there is nothing I can do about this as we never went through the court systems.
Is this true? What should I do next?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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