house deed

What is the name of your state?North Carolina

I helped my husband purchase from his x wife the house we are living in and paid 15.000 on it and have been furnishing it as well as beginning to do some repairs. He promised to put my name on the deed when we settled with her but didn;t and has never done so. Now he wants me to pay for half the repairs and says if at his death I will get it anyway but I think before I pay anymore he should consider putting my name on the deed too. He says if I don;t pay my part he will fix it like he wants it and I will have to live with that if I continue living there. I feel like this is mental abuse and outright distrust because I get so flustered with him I threaten leaving and just giving up on our marriage. We were once happy and enjoyed life but now its throwing doubt in my mind that he married me for love but to save his butt and house when he needed support. I love this man but don;t like what he is doing to me and I have said some things that I shouldn;t but he has driven a wedge betweem us and refuses to talk with a counselor or lawyer as to what could settle our problem. I really don;t think he wants to keep our marriage together. When he was refinanacing this property the girl he dealt with told me some things he said and told me I was foolish to invest anymore in it as he said some pretty negative things about not wanting my name on the deed. I have never done anything but help him to have better things. I have a truck he uses when he wants and thought I was contributing my part to this marriage but now I know the distrust he has for me has hurt me and I don;t know if I can live and deal with it. Also I pay my way as he don;t pay any medical expense or personal expenses on me and I contribute to some of the household necessities. I pay the insurance on my car and truck as well as the payments I also completely furnish and maintain as well pay for our beach place that was mine and my deceased husbands before the
marriage. In all I love this man and want to do something to get this straight but I can;t think straight and say some awful things. I may still live in this house in different quarters but will not do anything to keep it up hoping he will want to work this out. Life will be miserable and it will be embarassing for our friends to find out as we were so loving but I didnt; know just how much he distrusted me.