#3.I shall have supervised visitation with the child until such time as she can demonstrate to the grandmother that she has the stability and maturity to have unsupervised visitation with the child.
4.I shall not remove the minor child from the grandmother until such time as the grandmother agrees that I am of sufficient maturity and responsibility to do so.Until that time,I am enjoined and restrained from removing the child from the custody of the grandmother and from Lake County Florida.
MY RESPONSE; THIS ONE right here is what gives you hope in getting your daughter back... PROVE to the grandmother that you are mature and responsible enough to have the child unsupervised. If you have to, go to court and ask for more time with the child. You haven't taken the child out of state without written permission since this was signed, and the courts will recognize that you are abiding by the stipulation.
5.I am to keep the grandmother informed of my current address and phone number and her working address and phone number at all time and shall notify her of any changes within three days.
MY RESPONSE; Have you been doing this? Show it in court, so that you can get more unsupervised time with your daughter.
At the time of this I had refused to sign because I was afraid I was signing my rights away,but I had their attorney and the social worker involved tell me if I didn't sign it the judge would make me.I know now he couldn't have,but that day I didn't know.
MY RESPONSE; Actually, if you didn't sign it the Judge wouldn't make you, he would sign in your place, this would have shown you to be defiant in the face of the court, which could have hurt you more than you already were.
In response to getting files and medical and school records:How can I?
MY RESPONSE; That is YOUR child, they can't deny you copies. Look up the codes, print them out along with your ID, and her Birth Certificate, make copies, and go down to the office (or Fax it to them)to show that you are who you say you are.
And will theses people let me have them without their permission and who do I see to get them?
MY RESPONSE; Records Dept, in the individual offices.
I have the death cerificate with the sisters name and that she had it put down as he was divorced,who do I talk to or take it to?
MY RESPONSE; keep it with all your other copies to have until further notice by the attorney you'll be retaining when you get to the point of nor being hurt anymore.
Most of them tell me theres nothing they can do or laugh at me like I'm supose to know the law like they do.
When they do that, laugh back at them ad tell them they could have made a lot of money from you, but you'll have to take your business elsewhere. Don't let it get to you. If you keep looking, you'll find a lawyer who's willing to take on the case. BUT you have to be willing to do what it takes to get your daughter back.
I am truly sorry you wre unable to have anymore children.
MY RESPONSE; there are medical reasons why I can't and then there are personal reasons as well. The personal reason is that I was so scared to bring another child into this crazy world and possibly have to go thru what my daughter is going thru now, I couldn't do that to any other children, even to have that other child see me go thru the depression and everything else I went through, it would not have been a good situation either way for another child to go thru. The bright side of it is that I can focus all my time and energy on one child, oh, and there are no fights, I know who took that last cookie, if it wasn't me... So there are benefits to having an only child.
As to what she wants:I don't know I haven't had the courage to ask because I am afraid of what her answer might be,that she wants to stay there and you know I can deal with that but I feel as though we should be allowed unsupervised visitation so she can make up her mind on how she sees us living at home,not on how she sees us on one day a couple hours at a time trip once or twice a year.She just turned 10 this month and I know she wants to be around her brother and sister,but about me?I don't know..
MY RESPONSE; I would strongly suggest that you go back to court and request unsupervised out of state visits. Use what you have told me, it is from your heart, and hopefully they will listen. If not, get tough. HOw else are you going to get to know your child, and have the chance to fnd out what she wants?
I have also found out that the state of Alabama is a one party state,which is good for me.
MY RESPONSE; GREAT!! Go to Radio Shack or some place like that that sells conversation recorders, tape players, such.... The conversation recording device should cost around $25.00. the tape player/recorder, is going to be the most expensive...$70.00 - BUT WELL WORTH IT!! Get one that is voice actuated that has a cord (instead of an adapter) that plugs into the wall. (I just replaced mine today, so the amounts are fresh in my mind)
you may need to get a phone jack with more than three jacks in it to hook up the recorder t
H, don't forget to get blank tapes... When you talk to them, DO NOT TELL THEM, since your state is a one party state, you don't have to.
You may also want to get a small tape recorder to take with you to work, incase they call you there, and get a small mic that suction-cups to the back of the ear piece.
Again you are welcome. I'm glad I could listen when no one else would, I know how it feels to be alone. but I tell you, this board is great for sounding off in, and asking questions! When you do, next time, you may want to use more paragraphs, that way it won't be as confusing and you'll get more responses, some on the board won't disect long posts like I have. I hope I didn't offend you by asking that.
Good luck to you,
Ukiah
[Edited by Ukiah on 02-23-2001 at 08:59 PM]