What is the name of your state? VA
I'm actually asking these questions for my sister, who lives in VA.
A little background first: they have had marital difficulties in the recent past and she has recently undergone chemo treatments for cancer. She is a recovering alcoholic. Due to the marital difficulties, she lived with a friend (a female friend....just friends) for about 2 months. Now she has returned to the family home an has been there for about 2 months. They have been married for 18 years. Her husband has kept very little money in the joint account (he makes $100,000 per year) and has a private stash. She has now been able to get her old job back, selling real estate, but it of course takes time before you start to make any money. Last week she had car trouble. She asked her husband to help her and he told her it wasn't his problem. She took the car in to a shop to be fixed, to the tune of $500. She was able to pay for the repairs by taking $167 out of their joint account and paid for the rest out of the little she's been able to earn renting out apartments. He keeps very little food in the house, takes himself and their 2 children out to dinner every night, doesn't let her come with them. He has bought himself a new car and a used car for their 17 year old daughter. Now he has closed their joint checking account and is keeping all the money in another account. Also, he brings home alcohol every night and drinks in front of her (he does know that she is a recovering alcoholic and is going to AA meetings).
1. Isn't there some kind of law that a husband is supposed to take care of his wife...food, lodging, clothing, money that she access to, etc.?
2. Isn't his income considered marital property?
3. Would it be considered abusive for him to bring home alcohol and drink it in front of her since she's a recovering alcoholic?
Sorry this post is so long, but as you can see, there is a lot involved. Any advise would be helpful. I live in AR and don't know VA laws.