I Need To Get Out! what can i do

What is the name of your state? Maine

i am 16, 17 in june...... i was caught with weed at a dance and from there my life has gone down hill. It is not going on my record at all and all i have to do is community service. my parents decided because of my actions i should loose my computer,friends,sports,job,car and most of all Paintball. Paintball may not seem much to some people but it was my life. i played Pro and was payed to play. i had plane tickets to maimi,Tampa,France,NY,NJ. those were cancled by my parents. without paintball i dont have a reason to live it is the only thing i am good at and without it i am nothing.

I have parents offering me to go live with them and i tought about it for 2 weeks. now i want it to happen but how? is there anyway i can move in with them?

anything?

[Shay-Pari'e]

Sure you can, and your parents can then claim you as a runaway, that will do well for you.

Good for your parents for taking such good action.

[nextwife]

You can't go live with anyone without your parents permission.

You got busted doing something illegal. Just because you managed to get off "easy", does not mean it's no big deal. Your parents want to make sure you are properly punished and removed from the temptation to do it or something worse, again.

If they took away something that DIDN'T mean anything much to you, then the punishment wouldn't have much meaning, would it?

Paintball may seem like your life, but you really need to get your priorities straight. Your parent's actions are responsible and warranted. Take your punishment like a man and tough it out. Someday you can make your own bad decisions. Until then, your parents are responsible for you and have every right to keep you in line.

[stealth2]

The long and the short of it is that you proved to your parents that you were neither mature nor responsible enough to be on your own where you may again be tempted to behave poorly. The only way you would legally be allowed to move with other adults is by being declared an emancipated minor. In most states, either your parents would have to agree (not likely to happen) or you'd have to convince a judge that you're mature and responsible enough to be out on your own. Also not likely to happen. So basically, it's time for you to buck up and take your punishment like an adult.

if you keep a monkey from a bananna whats the first thing hes gunna do when they put one infront of him**************.. pounce on that thing. its the same way with kids and drugs, i grew up drinking and never found it as a big deal. i hardly drink now and at parties im the responsible driver. With one of my friends he grew up smoking weed. he turns it down now just cuz its not that important to him (he doesnt do any other drugs either).
with them taking away the only thing i have im not gunna sit here and do what they say like a frigin drone. it seems like the right way "punish" but with a warning i would have stopped and never touched it again.

[stealth2]

Uh huh. You still have to follow your parents' rules.

i know thats the sucky part

[nextwife]

I'd love to be a fly on the wall in, say, 25 years when your teen tries to sell YOU on that logic!

[stealth2]

Yeah, well.... part of being an adult is accepting the consequences of one's actions. Buck up and take 'em, dude.

I just have to say...... You may not realize it now but your parents are doing it because they love and care about you. YOu have to understand that. I am not to much older than yourself actually. I got into a lot of trouble when I was younger. I think I was punished most of my teenage life FOR REAL. But you know what without the caring and concern of my parents and all my punishments I dont think I would be the person I am today. I love my parents and I am now a parent myself and I see why they did what they did. You are only 16. YOu have your whole life ahead of you hon. This isnt the end of the world. TRUST ME. I understand paint ball is important to you but believe me your parents are more important and so is your well being and those stupid drugs you are doing now**************.. NOT WORTH IT. AT ALL. You will be an adult for much longer in your life than you will be a teenager. Just be happy you have parents that are there that care about you enough to punish you. They LOVE you. So stop crying about your punishment and know they did it for your own good because they care and love ya. Your punishment will be over before you know it. Its not the end of the world. And stay off the damn drugs no matter what it is. Weed, alcohol just chill ok. get High off life and PAINTBALL. Good luck to you.

I'm 17, and I paintball regularly - nowhere near professionally, of course - and first off, good for you in trying to find a legal path to help yourself out - I feel that people are being far too critical with someone who's at least trying and looking for answers rather than taking rash action.


In any case, yeah, I personally think your parents are being too harsh, but I don't feel that you should hold a lifetime grudge against them or anything unless they're legitimately abusive. They don't understand how important these things are to you - or maybe they do, and are showing you how important it is to them that you don't smoke weed.

I have a very libertarian stance on drugs, especially marijuana, but it's their value system (and unfortunately, that of our country). They fear that you'll become a burnout or something, so they want to remove anything that is distracting you, take away these "luxuries". This bothers you, obviously, and you have a few paths to take - either accept it and start doing nothing at all, just "play the game", reject it and start doing things to rebel against them (like smoking more anyway) or reject it and start focusing on improving yourself and living your life. Needless to say, the first two aren't very good options.


So what do you do? Start lifting weights and eating well, do sprint drills or other things to improve agility, do what you can with the free time you have now so that when you do get back to paintballing, you'll be better than ever. Don't do stupid acts of rebellion, because *you* are the one who'll suffer - turn that anger and resentment into something useful.


...also, krispenstpeter, you make me sick.

"Give me one week with your ass and you'll think your parents are the most loving, caring and supportive people you will ever meet."

Is that something to brag about, that his parents are more loving, caring, and supportive than you? Is calling someone who will be a legal adult in a couple short years and IS an adult by many traditions a "snot-nosed brat" a sign of maturity? If you see yourself so above this "punk", then I bet it makes you feel really big to go and tell him how ungrateful he is. Why don't I take the things away from you that you value, and call you a "snivelling punk" when you object, and try to look for a legal solution to your problems as well?

"You don't deserve parents like that."

And no matter how good of a person you think you are, you don't deserve to have kids - at all.

How do I think I have the right to call this idiot a "snivelling punk"? I EARNED IT

?? you are calling me a snivelling little punk from one post. youve never met me and dont have a clue of what ive been through eiother. You talk about seeing kids whove been shot..... i had 2 friends shot in a gang fight who where very close to me. ive had friends killed in drunk driving clashes. This isnt the first time ive been introuble and have had to start my life over again. you also dont know how hard it is to work your way up to a pro spot in paintball. its like a 15 year old playing pro basketball, ive been playing since i was 10 and it has been my life since then. For this to just be takin from me isnt a little thing i can get over. Also thats not the only reason i want to leave, my parents are both doctors and my sister is a year away from being one. my little brother is 11 and is already doing my homework with ease. i come from a very smart family and i am expected to follow in thier foot steps. THere is one problem though, im not smart... at all. If you give me a car i can fix it in record time but when it comes to grades tests and essays im as dumb as they come. For this my parents hate me, i cant even count the number of times my dad has held me against the wall by my neck told me he wanted to kick my ass. My mom takes me out of jobs and other sports for gettings C's which i work my ass of for.
My friends parents see this and offer me to live with them (without me asking them)


krispenstpeter...... your not the only one that sees these problems in the world, but most of all just cuz youve "seen" them doesnt me youve experinced them. For that i call you the punk and i hope you relize your not the only one whos had to stand nexted to a dead body.

[stealth2]

Originally posted by Not_A_Rebel
i had 2 friends shot in a gang fight who where very close to me. ive had friends killed in drunk driving clashes. This isnt the first time ive been introuble and have had to start my life over again.

And you wonder why you're grounded from all you enjoy? This wasn't your first strike, dude. You left a fair bit out. Maybe instead of hte parties, computer games, paintball, etc - you might consider applying yourself a little harder in school.

EDITED:

Before anyone asks, yes, I deleted my posts from this thread.

WHY? Because this child will either end up living on the streets, in jail, addicted to something or dead. And frankly, I don't care. There are enough kids in the world that are worth saving to waste time talking to this one.

And stealth, you're right. There IS more to this story. I just don't give a damn anymore.