I'll be 16.. can I leave my house?

[amber917]

I'm from Pennsylvania. I was wondering.. I'm 15 years old, and at the end of this month I will be 16. I'm practically never aloud out of my house, I can't go to a friends house, even if I ask first. My mother treats me like I'm 4 years old, and I don't want to live here anymore. So I would like to move, where I know I'll be treated better. Can I move in with my boyfriend and his mother without asking or having permission from my mom?

[nextwife]

NO, you may not.

[AHA]

Originally Posted by amber917

I'm from Pennsylvania. I was wondering.. I'm 15 years old, and at the end of this month I will be 16. I'm practically never aloud out of my house, I can't go to a friends house, even if I ask first. My mother treats me like I'm 4 years old, and I don't want to live here anymore. So I would like to move, where I know I'll be treated better. Can I move in with my boyfriend and his mother without asking or having permission from my mom?

So, why do you think you have to ask permission to do anything? Have you maybe been up to no good before and therefore been put on restrictions?
And, NO, you can not move in with your bf without your parents approval.

[Wolflmg]

No you can't, sorry kid.

The only way you can leave home at 16, is if you emancipate yourself.
But in order for that to happen, you must.
Support yourself 100%
Have a full time job
Pay for rent of an apartment on your own
Pay for food, clothes and everything else
Pay for car and medical insurance
Needs both parents concent
Needs to have a very good reason as to why the court should grant your request
Needs to be at least 16 years of age
Should finish high school

And if your unable to do all of this, the court will place you back into you mothers home.


Life can't be so bad, there's a lot of kids who have it ten times worse then you do. I'm sure your mother has her reason for not wanting to run all over with your friends.

[jpauline]

hey, your life may seem like it sucks, and your parents too overprotective, but look at it this way....I was LET TO DO WHATEVER I WANTED!! My parents didnt give a rip what i did...I started smoking pot when i was in 7th grade and the first person that i smoked pot with was my STEP DAD. I started smoking cigarettes then too, and drinking about everyweekend during the school year and about every to every other day during the summers...now im 16 and gettin out of my house moving in with my aunt and uncle. Since my whole "drug world" began, I have be pregnant and has a miscaridge, I have been in a foster home, in a suicide treatment center 3 times, in a detentional shelter, I have had 6 partners in the last 2 years, and have had clamydia to boot. I thank the lord each day that I could get myself out of that, and that i didnt something perminant like aids. There is a great chance that i cant have kids at all now because of that. There were just soooo many problems. I was soo close to taking my own life.

I know you probably hate where you are right now. Maybe you need to talk with your parents about trust and issues like that. But dont go looking to get out or looking for no structure...thats something that IM LOOKING FOR...be thankful for the parents that you have. Im not saying its totaly fare, so talk to them, write them a letter, be nice about it, and dont get mad when you dont get what you want right away....they'll come around, if you give them a reason to.

[ablessin]

I would listen to the above post.

Sounds like great advice from someone who has "been there" and is sorry that she was.

Kids need caring adults. There are way too many parents who don't give a crap and look what happens to the kids!

This girl has had it very rough, she has lived a life most adults I know have not experienced and she is still a teenager.

I hope she gets the love she deserves and can get on the right path towards a happy and successful adulthood.
Good luck, jpauline

[amber917]

See I understand all of that, but right now I may be pregnant, and my mom told me that if I ever got pregnant before I was 18 she would get the guy arrested. And I don't want my boyfriend getting arrested if I am pregnant. And he has a job and will be able to help support it. I don't think it's right to get him arrested if he's willing to help with the baby, that's why I want to get out of my house. Because then I wouldn't have to worry about my mom getting my boyfriend arrested. I don't want my boyfriend not to be able to see his own child because my mother would get him locked up. It's TOTALLY wrong for her to even think of that!

[cmorris]

You can't legally consent to having sex at your age.

How old is this boyfriend?

Ive been on my own since the age of 16 but its a tough way to go. I regret it but in my situation it was the only choice.

[Wolflmg]

Originally Posted by amber917

See I understand all of that, but right now I may be pregnant, and my mom told me that if I ever got pregnant before I was 18 she would get the guy arrested. And I don't want my boyfriend getting arrested if I am pregnant. And he has a job and will be able to help support it. I don't think it's right to get him arrested if he's willing to help with the baby, that's why I want to get out of my house. Because then I wouldn't have to worry about my mom getting my boyfriend arrested. I don't want my boyfriend not to be able to see his own child because my mother would get him locked up. It's TOTALLY wrong for her to even think of that!

How would you moving out help your boyfriend? Mommy's going to find out one way or another. If you just plain old move out, mom can call the police and you'll be listed as a runaway. And who ever your with at the time will get in trouble for harboring you.

How old is the boyfriend is he your age or is he much older then you? If he is more then four years older then you, yes he can get into trouble. And your mother wouldn't be the only one that could press charges agaisnt him. If an Officer found you with him, that Officer could press charges agaisnt him.

You would save yourself a lot of trouble, if you go and talk to your mom. I can see and understand why she doesn't want you leaving the house. Having sex at 16 is a very immature thing to do. And theres no way the court will emancipate you from your mother, based on the fact you had sex too young and may have gotten pregnant.

You need your mother more then ever now. Tell her the truth, go to a doctor and find out. If your not confortable telling your mother yourself, then tell someone that you both trust to tell her for you. But it would be better coming from you.

[stealth2]

Originally Posted by amber917

See I understand all of that, but right now I may be pregnant,

Originally Posted by amber917

I'm practically never aloud out of my house, I can't go to a friends house, even if I ask first. My mother treats me like I'm 4 years old

After reading the first, does the second quote REALLY surprise you? And..... you're obviously allowed out of the house at some point.

[amber917]

I'm going to be 16 on May 26th, and he's 18 as of last month. We don't have 4 years between us. And yes I was aloud out like once to go to his house to meet his mother, but that's it, then she went to the grocery store and that's when it all happened. So it was a one time thing when I was aloud out of my house.

[Zephyr]

so...the very first time you were allowed away from the house you have sex and likely got knocked up??? real good decision making there, if I were your mother you wouldn't talk on the phone, go anywhere, have anyone over, no internet until you proved your attention getting self destructive days were over. what the heck did you expect her to do??? "ok honey go have sex, but make sure you're home by 11:00"

[Zephyr]

and since you made the mistake twice-

the word is allowed=permitted
aloud=out loud

what grade are you in?

[amber917]

I'm in 10th and only 20 more days left of it... and i was actually at his house 4 times, a couple days after thanksgiving, 2 other times, and then a time i skipped school. So basically it wasnt me being ooh lets have sex so i can get pregnant, cuz it wasnt.