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I AM DIVORCED IN THE STATE OF FLORIDA. MY EX-WIFE AND I HAVE 1 5YR OLD SON. WHEN WE SPLIT UP I MOVED TO CALIFORNIA. SHE LATER FILED FOR DIVORCE. DUE TO TRAVEL DELAYS I WAS NOT PRESENT DURING THE DIVORCE HEARING. SO SHE MADE FALSE CLAIMS AND A FINAL JUDGEMENT WAS ORDERED BASED ON HER TESTIMONY. SHARED PARENTAL RESPONSIBILTY WAS AWARDED GIVING HER PRIMARY AND MYSELF SECONDARY RESIDENTIAL RESPONSIBILITY. AS WELL VISITATION WAS AWARDED TO ME ON A COURT ORDERED SCHEDULE. SHORTLY AFTER THE FINAL HEARING SHE RELOCATED TO A DIFFERENT COUNTY IN THE SAME STATE AND REMARRIED A MAN IN THE AIR FORCE WHO HAD BEEN GIVEN ORDERS TRANSFERRING HIM TO JAPAN.IN THE MIDST OF ALL OF THIS SHE HAD REFUSED ME MY SCHEDULED COURT ORDERED VISITATION THAT I HAD PAID TRAVELING EXPENSES FOR WELL IN ADVANCE. I HIRED AN ATTORNEY AND FILED SEVERAL MOTIONS TO ENFORCE VISITATION, PREVENT HER FROM RELOCATING MY SON OUT OF THE COUNTRY, AND CONTEMPT FOR MODIFYING A COURT ORDERBY FRUSTRATING MY VISITATION. FINALLY AFTER 6 OR 7 TRIPS BACK AND FORTH BETWEEN FL. & CA. THE HEARING FINALLY TAKES PLACE. THE COURT ALLOWS HER TO RELOCATE, MODIFIES CHILD SUPPORT TO THE TRUE GUIDELINES BASED ON INCOME ORDER HER TO TURN OVER MY SON TO GO TO CALIFORNIA AND STAY WITH ME TILL THEY LEAVE FOR JAPAN (A FEW SHORT WEEKS) A NEW VISITATION SCHEDULE IS ORDERED AND SO ON.
WHAT I AM GETTING AT IS THAT SHE WAS FOUND IN WILLFUL CONTEMPT OF THE FINAL JUDGEMENT, AND THE FOLLLOWING MODIFICATION WER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED BY THE COURT. (I AM TYPING THIS WORD FOR WORD BECAUSE I WOULD LIKE A THIRD PARTY INTERPRETATION TO COMPARE WITH MY INTERPRETATION IT IS NOW NEARING THE END OF HER HUSBANDS ORDERS TO RESIDE IN JAPAN AND THEY WILL BE ESTABLISHING RESIDENCE IN GA.) HERE WE GO.
1. SUBSEQUENT VISITATION BETWEEN THE MINOR CHILD AND THE FORMER HUSBAND SHALL BE AS FOLLOWS.
A.1998 i.THE VISITATION SET FORTH IN PARAGRAPH 5 ABOVE (THE VISIT IN CA. UP TO DEPARTURE TO JAPAN)
ii. THE FIRST WEEK OF NOV. THROUGH THE LAST WEEK OF DEC.
B. 1999 i. TWO WEEKS IN APRIL.
ii. SIX WEEKS IN THE SUMMER TO INCLUDE THE ENTIRE MONTH OF JULY AND THE FIRST TWO WEEKS IN AUGUST.
iii. THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF NOVEMBER, TO INCLUDE THE THANKSGIVING HOLIDAY.
C. 2000 i. TWO WEEKS IN APRIL, INCLUDING THE EASTER HOLIDAY.
ii. SIX WEEKS IN THE SUMMER, TO INCLUDE THE ENTIRE MONTH OF JULY AND THE FIRST TWO WEEKS IN AUGUST.
iii. THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF DECEMBER.
D. THE FORMER WIFE SHALL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE COST OF ALL TRANSPORTATION FOR THE MINOR CHILDS VISITATION WITH HER FORMER HUSBAND.
E. WHEN THE MINOR CHILD RETURNS TO RESIDING IN THE CONTINENTAL UNITED STATES THE PARTIES SHALL RENEGOTIATE THE VISITATION SCHEDULE. IN THE EVENT THE PARTIES CANNOT REACH AN AGREEMENT PRIOR TO THE END OF THE FORMER WIFES CURRENT HUSBANDS OVERSEAS ASSIGNMENT, THEN THE FORMER HUSBAND SHALL CONTINUE TO HAVE VISITATION AS SET FORTH IN THIS ORDER, TWO WEEKS IN APRIL, SIX WEEKS IN THE SUMMER AND ALTERNATING TWO WEEKS AT CHRISTMAS WITH TWO WEEKS AT THANKSGIVING. THIS SCHEDULE SHALL CONTINUE PAST THE YEAR 2000 TILL YHE PARTIES REACH AN AGREEMENT ON ALTERNATIVE VISITATION, OR UPON FURTHER ORDER OF THIS COURT.
OVER THE PERIOD OF THIS SCHEDULE DUE TO THE HIGH COST OF TRAVEL BETWEEN JAPAN AND THE U.S. AS WELL AS MY SON'S SCHOOL SCHEDULE I AGREED TO EXTEND SUMMER VISITS AND ELIMINATE EASTER VISITS WHILE THEY WERE IN JAPAN. SINCE SHE WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR TRAVEL EXPENSES IT ALWAYS TURNED OUT THAT RATHER THAN EXTENDED VISITS IN THE SUMMER THEY WERE CUT FROM 5 TO 10 DAYS SHORT AND 10 DAYS WAS THE LONGEST STAY DURING THE WINTER HOLIDAY SCHEDULED VISITS. SHE INFORMED ME THAT DUE TO THE MOVING EXPENSES THAT THEY ARE SUPPOSEDLY INCURRING TO RELOCATE TO GA. (I AM WELL AWARE THAT THE AIR FORCE PAYS FOR THESE EXPENSES) THAT I WOULD HAVE TO COME VISIT WITH HIM IN GA. THIS SUMMER IN ORDER TO SEE HIM IF I COULD NOT AFFORD TO BUY 3 R.T. AIRLINE TICKETS SO THAT I COULD FLY TO GA. AND PICK HIM UP.(1 TICKET) HIS TICKET (2 TICKETS) AND ALSO FLY BACK WITH HIM TO DROP HIM OFF AFTER HIS VISITATION. SHE HAS MADE IT CLEAR THAT VISITATION CAN AND WILL NOT AFFECT HIS SCHOOL SCHEDULE. AND I AM NOW RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL OF HIS TRAVEL EXPENSES. I HAVE AGREED TO PURCHASE THE PLANE TICKETS FOR HIS VISITATION BUT THAT HE IS NOW AT AN AGE HE CAN BE SET UP TO FLY ALONE TO REDUCE TRAVEL EXPENSES. IN ORDER TO ELIMINATE MORE LOST VISITATION TIME WITH MY SON I WENT AHEAD AND BOUGHT 3 R.T. TICKETS AND AM GOING TO FLY TO GET HIM THIS TRIP AS WELL AS RETURN HOME WITH HIM THIS TIME BECAUSE OF ALL OF THE MOVING AND CONFUSION TO HOPEFULLY MAKE IT EASIER FOR HIM TO ADJUST. IN EXCHANGE FOR AGREEING TO BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR MY SON'S TRAVEL EXPENSES I ASKED THAT I BE RELEIVED OF CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS FOR THE SIX WEEKS HE SPENDS WITH ME IN THE SUMMER ONLY SINCE I WOULD BE SUPPORTING HIM ANYWAY. SHE IS EXTREMELY UNREASONABLE IN MY OPINION. THE WAY I UNDERSTAND THE AGREEMENT BASED ON HER ACTIONS PREVIOUSLY I THINK I AM BEING A REAL STAND UP GUY. FOR THE SAKE OF MY SON. I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE ANY FEEDBACK. AND AS I SAID BEFORE, A THIRD PARTY OPINION OF THESE FINAL JUDGEMENT MODIFICATIONS. I REALLY WOULD HATE TO END UP BACK IN THE COURTS WITH THESE ISSUES. THE MONEY WE HAVE ALREADY GONE THROUGH COULD HAVE BEEN PUT TOWARDS A QUALITY EDUCATION WHICH HE DESERVES. ANY SUGGESTIONS THAT MAY HELP ME TO REACH AN AGREEMENT BETWEEN THE TWO OF US ARE ALSO WELCOME.
THANK YOU.
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WHAT I AM GETTING AT IS THAT SHE WAS FOUND IN WILLFUL CONTEMPT OF THE FINAL JUDGEMENT, AND THE FOLLLOWING MODIFICATION WER ORDERED AND ADJUDGED BY THE COURT. (I AM TYPING THIS WORD FOR WORD BECAUSE I WOULD LIKE A THIRD PARTY INTERPRETATION TO COMPARE WITH MY INTERPRETATION IT IS NOW NEARING THE END OF HER HUSBANDS ORDERS TO RESIDE IN JAPAN AND THEY WILL BE ESTABLISHING RESIDENCE IN GA.) HERE WE GO.
1. SUBSEQUENT VISITATION BETWEEN THE MINOR CHILD AND THE FORMER HUSBAND SHALL BE AS FOLLOWS.
A.1998 i.THE VISITATION SET FORTH IN PARAGRAPH 5 ABOVE (THE VISIT IN CA. UP TO DEPARTURE TO JAPAN)
ii. THE FIRST WEEK OF NOV. THROUGH THE LAST WEEK OF DEC.
B. 1999 i. TWO WEEKS IN APRIL.
ii. SIX WEEKS IN THE SUMMER TO INCLUDE THE ENTIRE MONTH OF JULY AND THE FIRST TWO WEEKS IN AUGUST.
iii. THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF NOVEMBER, TO INCLUDE THE THANKSGIVING HOLIDAY.
C. 2000 i. TWO WEEKS IN APRIL, INCLUDING THE EASTER HOLIDAY.
ii. SIX WEEKS IN THE SUMMER, TO INCLUDE THE ENTIRE MONTH OF JULY AND THE FIRST TWO WEEKS IN AUGUST.
iii. THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF DECEMBER.
D. THE FORMER WIFE SHALL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE COST OF ALL TRANSPORTATION FOR THE MINOR CHILDS VISITATION WITH HER FORMER HUSBAND.
E. WHEN THE MINOR CHILD RETURNS TO RESIDING IN THE CONTINENTAL UNITED STATES THE PARTIES SHALL RENEGOTIATE THE VISITATION SCHEDULE. IN THE EVENT THE PARTIES CANNOT REACH AN AGREEMENT PRIOR TO THE END OF THE FORMER WIFES CURRENT HUSBANDS OVERSEAS ASSIGNMENT, THEN THE FORMER HUSBAND SHALL CONTINUE TO HAVE VISITATION AS SET FORTH IN THIS ORDER, TWO WEEKS IN APRIL, SIX WEEKS IN THE SUMMER AND ALTERNATING TWO WEEKS AT CHRISTMAS WITH TWO WEEKS AT THANKSGIVING. THIS SCHEDULE SHALL CONTINUE PAST THE YEAR 2000 TILL YHE PARTIES REACH AN AGREEMENT ON ALTERNATIVE VISITATION, OR UPON FURTHER ORDER OF THIS COURT.
OVER THE PERIOD OF THIS SCHEDULE DUE TO THE HIGH COST OF TRAVEL BETWEEN JAPAN AND THE U.S. AS WELL AS MY SON'S SCHOOL SCHEDULE I AGREED TO EXTEND SUMMER VISITS AND ELIMINATE EASTER VISITS WHILE THEY WERE IN JAPAN. SINCE SHE WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR TRAVEL EXPENSES IT ALWAYS TURNED OUT THAT RATHER THAN EXTENDED VISITS IN THE SUMMER THEY WERE CUT FROM 5 TO 10 DAYS SHORT AND 10 DAYS WAS THE LONGEST STAY DURING THE WINTER HOLIDAY SCHEDULED VISITS. SHE INFORMED ME THAT DUE TO THE MOVING EXPENSES THAT THEY ARE SUPPOSEDLY INCURRING TO RELOCATE TO GA. (I AM WELL AWARE THAT THE AIR FORCE PAYS FOR THESE EXPENSES) THAT I WOULD HAVE TO COME VISIT WITH HIM IN GA. THIS SUMMER IN ORDER TO SEE HIM IF I COULD NOT AFFORD TO BUY 3 R.T. AIRLINE TICKETS SO THAT I COULD FLY TO GA. AND PICK HIM UP.(1 TICKET) HIS TICKET (2 TICKETS) AND ALSO FLY BACK WITH HIM TO DROP HIM OFF AFTER HIS VISITATION. SHE HAS MADE IT CLEAR THAT VISITATION CAN AND WILL NOT AFFECT HIS SCHOOL SCHEDULE. AND I AM NOW RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL OF HIS TRAVEL EXPENSES. I HAVE AGREED TO PURCHASE THE PLANE TICKETS FOR HIS VISITATION BUT THAT HE IS NOW AT AN AGE HE CAN BE SET UP TO FLY ALONE TO REDUCE TRAVEL EXPENSES. IN ORDER TO ELIMINATE MORE LOST VISITATION TIME WITH MY SON I WENT AHEAD AND BOUGHT 3 R.T. TICKETS AND AM GOING TO FLY TO GET HIM THIS TRIP AS WELL AS RETURN HOME WITH HIM THIS TIME BECAUSE OF ALL OF THE MOVING AND CONFUSION TO HOPEFULLY MAKE IT EASIER FOR HIM TO ADJUST. IN EXCHANGE FOR AGREEING TO BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR MY SON'S TRAVEL EXPENSES I ASKED THAT I BE RELEIVED OF CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS FOR THE SIX WEEKS HE SPENDS WITH ME IN THE SUMMER ONLY SINCE I WOULD BE SUPPORTING HIM ANYWAY. SHE IS EXTREMELY UNREASONABLE IN MY OPINION. THE WAY I UNDERSTAND THE AGREEMENT BASED ON HER ACTIONS PREVIOUSLY I THINK I AM BEING A REAL STAND UP GUY. FOR THE SAKE OF MY SON. I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE ANY FEEDBACK. AND AS I SAID BEFORE, A THIRD PARTY OPINION OF THESE FINAL JUDGEMENT MODIFICATIONS. I REALLY WOULD HATE TO END UP BACK IN THE COURTS WITH THESE ISSUES. THE MONEY WE HAVE ALREADY GONE THROUGH COULD HAVE BEEN PUT TOWARDS A QUALITY EDUCATION WHICH HE DESERVES. ANY SUGGESTIONS THAT MAY HELP ME TO REACH AN AGREEMENT BETWEEN THE TWO OF US ARE ALSO WELCOME.
THANK YOU.
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