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[jojocain]

What is the name of your state? Georgia
My husband and I have had a tough marriage. My mother-in-law, Betty, is a very destructive person when it comes to her three children and their relationships. Due to her so-called advice, her oldest daughter has been divorced once, engaged twice in 6 months, and now have problems with her current husband. The youngest daughter(23) is now divorced. My marriage of 8 years is in danger. My husband has been arrested twice for domestic violence. After each arrest I found out that his mother told him he needed to do it to control me. She followed a car that resembled mine and had my husband get off of work because she said I was cheating on him. Much to her surprise it wasn't me. He became angry at her and they didn't speak to each other for months. Things were great at home for awhile. Now they are calling each other again and he is gone. He says his dad told him he should be able to come and go as he pleases. (meaning with friends, bars, all-night "fishing") We have four young children and he works very hard all week and weekends, so all that I asked was that he give his nights to us and that he takes our two boys(6 and 7yrs. old) with him to help me out. So, they told him to leave me to teach me a lesson. I feel so lost and confused right now.
Is it fair for me to ask him to choose?
Is there anything that I can do about his parents?
(restraining order, civil harrasment law suit, etc.)

Originally Posted by jojocain

What is the name of your state? Georgia
My husband and I have had a tough marriage. My mother-in-law, Betty, is a very destructive person when it comes to her three children and their relationships. Due to her so-called advice, her oldest daughter has been divorced once, engaged twice in 6 months, and now have problems with her current husband. The youngest daughter(23) is now divorced. My marriage of 8 years is in danger. My husband has been arrested twice for domestic violence. After each arrest I found out that his mother told him he needed to do it to control me. She followed a car that resembled mine and had my husband get off of work because she said I was cheating on him. Much to her surprise it wasn't me. He became angry at her and they didn't speak to each other for months. Things were great at home for awhile. Now they are calling each other again and he is gone. He says his dad told him he should be able to come and go as he pleases. (meaning with friends, bars, all-night "fishing") We have four young children and he works very hard all week and weekends, so all that I asked was that he give his nights to us and that he takes our two boys(6 and 7yrs. old) with him to help me out. So, they told him to leave me to teach me a lesson. I feel so lost and confused right now.
Is it fair for me to ask him to choose?
Is there anything that I can do about his parents?
(restraining order, civil harrasment law suit, etc.)

You need Dr. Phil and some family counseling!

IMO: Filing a lawsuit against your mother-in-law is only going to cause MORE PROBLEMS.

[Ithildriel]

If your husband has committed domestic violence against you twice, you need to be leaving him, not the other way around.