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[BS54]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
I committed adultry about 25 years ago (in Ohio) and my wife thru me out. I went and lived with the one I committed adultry with (girlfriend). Two years later I moved my wife & 2 children to Georgia, but also moved my girlfriend down a couple months later (this was the plan from the beginning of the move and all knew it). From the moment my girlfriend moved to Georgia, I have lived with her. Except for a couple of months in an attempt to help my family with expenses, I have lived with my girlfriend for the whole 25 years. I have never gotten divorced from my wife. I help her financially, paid our own agreed upon child support, along with additional help like purchasing cars, finding new places to live, occassional utility money, additional clothing for the kids, after high school education (daughter wanted to become a dental assistant), and other random financial help that I gave without a second thought, as long as I could afford it). There was never any court ordered support, as we have never gone to court. My wife filed for divorce once, but she never showed for the hearing, so it was dismissed. I have never filed because I was lazy and affraid to lose my children. Never had the money handle long battles in court, so I have just let it go. My children are now grown, married, and I have 7 wonderful grandchildren. My wife has alienated our daughter and her relationship with our son is very unstable. I have always taught them to always be on their mom's side, but she has let the hurt I caused her blind her judgements and now her daughter refuses to speak to her. Their argument is not based on me & my wife's situation, but it still bother's me. My daughter has a better relationship with my girlfriend than she does with her own mother. Anyway, my wife continues to threaten me with lawsuits about the adultry & missed child support payments (the missed payments might amount to a couple thousand dollars-I paid her $400 a month voluntarily). My children are now in their mid-30s. Even though their was never a court order, is the child support lawsuit possible? My wife still wants to hurt me and my girlfriend, which I understand her pain, but it has been over 20 years since I have been with her as a husband. No lectures please, I get enough from my girlfriend and my kids. I just would like to know if my wife can still threaten me with child support and alimony.

[Antigone*of*Greece]

Originally Posted by BS54

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
I committed adultry about 25 years ago (in Ohio) and my wife thru me out. I went and lived with the one I committed adultry with (girlfriend). Two years later I moved my wife & 2 children to Georgia, but also moved my girlfriend down a couple months later (this was the plan from the beginning of the move and all knew it). From the moment my girlfriend moved to Georgia, I have lived with her. Except for a couple of months in an attempt to help my family with expenses, I have lived with my girlfriend for the whole 25 years. I have never gotten divorced from my wife. I help her financially, paid our own agreed upon child support, along with additional help like purchasing cars, finding new places to live, occassional utility money, additional clothing for the kids, after high school education (daughter wanted to become a dental assistant), and other random financial help that I gave without a second thought, as long as I could afford it). There was never any court ordered support, as we have never gone to court. My wife filed for divorce once, but she never showed for the hearing, so it was dismissed. I have never filed because I was lazy and affraid to lose my children. Never had the money handle long battles in court, so I have just let it go. My children are now grown, married, and I have 7 wonderful grandchildren. My wife has alienated our daughter and her relationship with our son is very unstable. I have always taught them to always be on their mom's side, but she has let the hurt I caused her blind her judgements and now her daughter refuses to speak to her. Their argument is not based on me & my wife's situation, but it still bother's me. My daughter has a better relationship with my girlfriend than she does with her own mother. Anyway, my wife continues to threaten me with lawsuits about the adultry & missed child support payments (the missed payments might amount to a couple thousand dollars-I paid her $400 a month voluntarily). My children are now in their mid-30s. Even though their was never a court order, is the child support lawsuit possible? My wife still wants to hurt me and my girlfriend, which I understand her pain, but it has been over 20 years since I have been with her as a husband. No lectures please, I get enough from my girlfriend and my kids. I just would like to know if my wife can still threaten me with child support and alimony.

It is nuts to think that she could even try to pull the "child support" card. If you never had a child support order in place, then she is SOL.

I certanly don't condone what you've done, but at this point 25 years down the line I'd stop giving her any kind of financial support.

You really should consider getting your own attorney, filing for divorce and cutting all ties with the wife. All parties involved deserve a clean break.

[BS54]

Thank you for your input. I admit I am the bad guy in all of this and have drug this out far too long. I have allowed my wife to keep me afraid of loosing my children. Now that the kids are grown and on their own, she now threatens to have me and/or my girlfriend thrown in jail and suing me for a lot of money. I know I need to grow a pair and get this divorce done and over with, I'm just concerned with the outcome I guess.

Thank you again for your comments and advice.