aliceyalice
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
i'm beginning to think i made a mistake by moving in with a man i dated 20 years ago when we were both teens. i moved in with him 2 years ago and worked regularly. then he got a job for me in his office making considerably more than i had been. but the department i was in was shut down and everyone in it laid off. i have been unable to procure work now for over a year.
he doesn't want me to walk to a workplace, he wants to drive me, but he doesn't ever have the time or inclination to take me to interviews. he discourages my attempts to find employment outside the home. i have not left the house without his permission the entire time i have lived here.
because i have no income, he has purchased all of my clothing and incidentals and purchased gifts for me including a cell phone and a computer. lately he has been acting horribly, calling me by obscenities and even physically striking me on a few occasions. when i decided to leave, he informed me that i will go with only the things i have left from before i met him (i own not one shirt, not one pair of socks, from that time in my life anymore).
he began grabbing my keepsakes (photos, and family heirlooms that i had) and said he was throwing them into the street and i had to leave immediately or not at all. he said since he purchased everything from my make up to the shoes i was wearing that he was legally entitled to strip them from me and throw me out with nothing but my keepsakes which i had owned previous to moving in with him.
i have had live in arrangements before, but neither of those men did anything so extreme when i left them. they allowed me a month or two to divide our possessions amicably together, box up what we mutually decided were mine and transport them to my new home.
even though several different people have witnessed him claiming the computer and cell phone were gifts he made to me for birthdays and christmas, neither i nor he felt it was neccessary to point out that the shoes, clothes and make up were intended to be gifts to me as well. how do i handle moving out? the longer i stay, the less i have from the time before i lived with him.
i'm beginning to think i made a mistake by moving in with a man i dated 20 years ago when we were both teens. i moved in with him 2 years ago and worked regularly. then he got a job for me in his office making considerably more than i had been. but the department i was in was shut down and everyone in it laid off. i have been unable to procure work now for over a year.
he doesn't want me to walk to a workplace, he wants to drive me, but he doesn't ever have the time or inclination to take me to interviews. he discourages my attempts to find employment outside the home. i have not left the house without his permission the entire time i have lived here.
because i have no income, he has purchased all of my clothing and incidentals and purchased gifts for me including a cell phone and a computer. lately he has been acting horribly, calling me by obscenities and even physically striking me on a few occasions. when i decided to leave, he informed me that i will go with only the things i have left from before i met him (i own not one shirt, not one pair of socks, from that time in my life anymore).
he began grabbing my keepsakes (photos, and family heirlooms that i had) and said he was throwing them into the street and i had to leave immediately or not at all. he said since he purchased everything from my make up to the shoes i was wearing that he was legally entitled to strip them from me and throw me out with nothing but my keepsakes which i had owned previous to moving in with him.
i have had live in arrangements before, but neither of those men did anything so extreme when i left them. they allowed me a month or two to divide our possessions amicably together, box up what we mutually decided were mine and transport them to my new home.
even though several different people have witnessed him claiming the computer and cell phone were gifts he made to me for birthdays and christmas, neither i nor he felt it was neccessary to point out that the shoes, clothes and make up were intended to be gifts to me as well. how do i handle moving out? the longer i stay, the less i have from the time before i lived with him.
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