In love with a 17 y.o bf...but his parents disagree

What is the name of your state? OHIO

Hi,
Ok i am utterly desperate ...I am 21, french and under a Visa Waiver ...
My boyfriend is 17, US citizen...
We are together for 6 months so i came here to spend more time with him..his parents always knew about us,i even met then and things were more than ok..

But the minute i left, his parents start making crazy things in order to tear us apart! Take away, phone, computer, car keys... Even to call their friend who works at the Police in Stow,OH to arrest us and send me ASAP back in France..

We want to be married but there are no way they will agree (they dont even want him to call me)...we are both trully in love, believe me, but all this pressure is so hard, we dont know what to do ..

Should we see a judge or a lawer to get the permission to be together at least...its really crazy...just because of them we cant see each other ...why ? coz i am 21 !

I know having a 4 year old age diff may be huge but the most ironic is that his parents have the same age diff as his mom is 4 year older than his father !


(((((( PLEASE HELP US ))))))

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally Posted by Madoka

What is the name of your state? OHIO

Hi,
Ok i am utterly desperate ...I am 21, french and under a Visa Waiver ...
My boyfriend is 17, US citizen...
We are together for 6 months so i came here to spend more time with him..his parents always knew about us,i even met then and things were more than ok..

But the minute i left, his parents start making crazy things in order to tear us apart! Even to call their friend the Chief Police in Stow,OH to arrest us and send me ASAP in France..

We want to be married but there are no way they will agree (they dont even want him to call me)...we are both trully in love, believe me, but all this pressure is so hard, we dont know what to do ..

Should we see a judge or a lawer to get the permission to be together at least...its really crazy...just because of them we cant see each other ...why ? coz i am 21 !

I know having a 4 year old age diff may be huge but the most ironic is that his parents have the same age diff as his mom is 4 year older than his father !


(((((( PLEASE HELP US ))))))

My response:

This is only a guess. Perhaps they don't want a girl in his life who refuses to shave her armpits.

Who knows? That could be the reason.

IAAL

i would appreciate serious answers only instead of stupids comments about ppl like u, who need to get a life and stop making fun of ppl'sorrow

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally Posted by Madoka

i would appreciate serious answers only instead of stupids comments about ppl you, who need to get a life and stop making fun of ppl'sorrow

My response:

Where's your funny bone?

You'll just have to wait until he's 18. Once he's 18, he's legally an adult, and do whatever he likes and go anywhere he likes. Until then, Mom and Dad "call the shots." Of course, if he's still living with Mom and Dad even AFTER he's 18, they will still "call the shots". Remember, he's living in THEIR home.

Try to laugh a little. It makes life just a little easier. Oh, and start shaving those pits - - and maybe your legs too.

IAAL

[Hisbabygirl77]

lol ok I normally can't stand Iaal's smart remarks but come on that did make me giggle. You are a legal adult so you can decide what to do with your life but he is still legally a child so his parents can do what they are doing. If you are so in love with him then leave him alone for a year when he becomes an adult then you two can get married and live happily ever after. I mean after all its true love right? From a personal stand point I can not understand the attraction a 21 year old could have for a 17 year old boy but hey I like older men anyway. So like I said wait a year if it really is love you will both be willing to do so.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally Posted by Hisbabygirl77

lol ok I normally can't stand Iaal's smart remarks

My response:

Really? Do you think I should roll it back?

IAAL

[Hisbabygirl77]

Whatever makes u happy Iaal

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally Posted by Hisbabygirl77

Whatever makes u happy Iaal

My response:

Thank you. I think I'll just "stay the course" - - as our dufus President says.

IAAL

[Hisbabygirl77]

Sigh**************.well since I am finding you humorous I won't argue politics. Although I did vote for that dufus so that is taking a lot for me to bite my tongue lol.

Go play elsewhere i need help not immatures jokes

[Hisbabygirl77]

Gee and here I thought that's what I did. You are an adult. He is a child. His parent's can do what ever they want to stop the relationship. You have no legal grounds to stand on. Case closed.

[stevek3]

Originally Posted by Madoka

i would appreciate serious answers only instead of stupids comments about ppl like u, who need to get a life and stop making fun of ppl'sorrow

I AM ALWAYS LIABLE is also French, so you more than anybody should be able to appreciate his rudeness.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Originally Posted by Madoka

Go play elsewhere i need help not immatures jokes

My response:

You got all the "help" you're going to get. You were given the correct answer, Frenchy.

IAAL

[Shay-Pari'e]

(QUOTE)We are together for 6 months so i came here to spend more time with him..his parents always knew about us,i even met then and things were more than ok..

But the minute i left, his parents start making crazy things in order to tear us apart! Take away, phone, computer, car keys... Even to call their friend who works at the Police in Stow,OH to arrest us and send me ASAP back in France..(QUOTE)

How were you together for six months before you came to the US?

[stealth2]

Mom & Dad are the bosses at this point. As someone else said, if your feelings for him are that serious, you will respect his parents wishes at this point. If, when he turns 18, things are the same - he can do as he likes (assuming he moves out of his parents' home). I would hope that you'd urge him to complete both HS and college before getting married, however.

The difference in his parents' ages is moot.