move with my child...

[teresa1782001]

What is the name of your state?California
My fiance has just got a new job offer to move to las vegas and be a video tech at the mgm grand. Our yearly earnings would go up extreemely alot. But I was curious what i need to do with her father ( whom we are not together anymore and were never married and have no real custody orders) to let him know she's comming with us and can go to him in the summer. Whet steps do I need to take in order to take her out of the state of califonia to move there with us?? I feel bad taking her but family comes first and if we would be way more succesful there i don't know what to do if he say's no i can't take her??? Can he say that?? Please give me some advise... ( i reight now have my daughter 4-5 days out of the week and he get's her 2-3 day's...

[teresa1782001]

[quote=teresa1782001]What is the name of your state?California
My fiance has just got a new job offer to move to las vegas and be a video tech at the mgm grand. Our yearly earnings would go up extreemely alot. But I was curious what i need to do with her father ( whom we are not together anymore and were never married and have no real custody orders) to let him know she's comming with us and can go to him in the summer. Whet steps do I need to take in order to take her out of the state of califonia to move there with us?? I feel bad taking her but family comes first and if we would be way more succesful there i don't know what to do if he say's no i can't take her??? Can he say that?? Please give me some advise... ( i reight now have my daughter 4-5 days out of the week and he get's her 2-3 day's...

[Wolflmg]

Is his name on the birth certificate? Does he pay childsupport? Did a court setup when he would have visitations, or was it decided between you two?

[djohnson]

The questions above and also, do you realize the cost of living is also greater there, so it's probably not as big a raise as you think.

[kittien2000]

Mrs. Johnson,
By no means is the cost of living higher in Las Vegas than California. Generalities such as what you stated are not true until you have all the facts. The average cost of a home in southern California is in the neighborhood of $450,000, whereas in Las Vegas there are many homes available for under $300,000. Therefore, maybe we should just inform the OP of the Legal issues of her questions.

Such as, unless you have a court order with visititation and support, you can move, but do not be shocked if the father files for custody and the court orders the child back to California. With or without the mother. The father sounds like he spends a significant amount of time with the child and move away cases in California are not easy ones to win. If the mother truly wants what is best for the child she will promote the relationship with the bio-Dad and work with him to come to an agreement that is ideally best for the child.

The OP's statements of "family" are rather ridiculous, as the child's "family" are his/hers parents. Not just the mother.

[stealth2]

Originally Posted by teresa1782001

I feel bad taking her but family comes first

Uuuuuuh, you do, of course, realize that he IS part of your daughter's family, right? Why is stepDad's new job more important than HER family?

[AHA]

Money(from other than the parent no less!!) should NEVER come before a child's upbringing WITH his/her BOTH BIOparents. I would have hated my mom if she had taken me away from my dad, only for a few extra bucks.
What's more important, money or your child?

[withonel]

I feel bad taking her but family comes first and if we would be way more succesful there

Your child's father is her family. Sacrafices have to be made when we become parents, even if we don't think through the consequences when we create children without legal committments.
Your child's father spends a significant amount of time with her according to your post, to remove him from her life so you and your new boyfriend can have more money is not in her best interest.
The reason California makes it so hard for parents to move away is because moving away is so hard on kids.
My husband has the opportunity to move to Delaware where our standard of living would be improved 4 times but we have children from previous marriages who have parents who live here, therefore we live here, with our children. What good is a bigger house and more cash without our children to enjoy it? How would our children feel in a big house without the option of seeing their mother or father every week like they do now?
If you can not convince your child's father to relocate with you, you shouldn't move. If you do, your child's father will have a good case to file for custody in California.

[kayceebee]

My ex and I have joint custody, I have physical custody. My employer is moving 2 hours north - in to Ohio. I was told by my lawyer that I am free to move because there is no limitation in our agreement. However, he would have to right to file to keep the kids in Kentucky - and the judge would decide if I had the right to move or not. I would also have to establish a new visitation agreement.

The move would have been a great advantage for me financially. I had to make a personal decision on what I thought was best for my kids. I decided to pass on the relocation package. Now, my kids are only 20 minutes from where their Dad works (1 hour from where he lives). Although he chooses to not attend their soccer or t-ball games, it isn't because of me. I can look my kids in the face and let then know that I gave Daddy a schedule and I don't know why he didn't make it again. Your child's father sees you child much more than my ex sees my boys. He dropped his Wednesday visitation once homework started. He only sees them every-other weekend. I know my kids like seeing their dad therefore, passed on the relocation and will stay in the area.

Good luck.

[casa]

Originally Posted by teresa1782001

What is the name of your state?California
My fiance has just got a new job offer to move to las vegas and be a video tech at the mgm grand. Our yearly earnings would go up extreemely alot. But I was curious what i need to do with her father ( whom we are not together anymore and were never married and have no real custody orders) to let him know she's comming with us and can go to him in the summer. Whet steps do I need to take in order to take her out of the state of califonia to move there with us?? I feel bad taking her but family comes first and if we would be way more succesful there i don't know what to do if he say's no i can't take her??? Can he say that?? Please give me some advise... ( i reight now have my daughter 4-5 days out of the week and he get's her 2-3 day's...

CA courts DO NOT like to allow children to move out of state from one parent. Especially one with a significant amount of parenting time- as your child has.

What will be considered is if the move is in the Best Interest of the Child. (Not you) If you have family at the new location - not your husband- and if you are leaving significant family in CA - such as father & father's family. Exceptions to that general rule are military transfers, transfers which necessitate urgent medical treatment or long standing employment transfers which the parent has little to no choice in.