moving out

[rose1213]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law ) illinois

okay to make a long story short i will be turning 18 in three weeks and i want to move in with my boyfriends mom. she lives in missouri and she told me that on my 18 the b-day that i could move in. my mom told me that if i left she would call the police and say i was a "runaway" and she said she would call the police on his mom for "harboring a runaway" or "kidnapping". i don't want his mom to get into trouble. i was wondering if my mom can really go to the police since i will already be 18. she also mentioned something about "crossing state lines" i don't know what that means. any FACTUAL info would be appreciated!

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

At 18, you would NOT be a runaway. Question: are you planning on finishing school?

[rose1213]

yes i am going to finish school and go to college in missouri, his mom is already looking in to helping enroll in a high school!

[ErynSMA]

Originally Posted by rose1213

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law ) illinois

okay to make a long story short i will be turning 18 in three weeks and i want to move in with my boyfriends mom. she lives in missouri and she told me that on my 18 the b-day that i could move in. my mom told me that if i left she would call the police and say i was a "runaway" and she said she would call the police on his mom for "harboring a runaway" or "kidnapping". i don't want his mom to get into trouble. i was wondering if my mom can really go to the police since i will already be 18. she also mentioned something about "crossing state lines" i don't know what that means. any FACTUAL info would be appreciated!

Your mom is using scare tactics to try to get you to stay. When you are 18, you are a legal adult, and if you want to move out, you can- just realize you will need to support yourself and be able to pay your own bills. Best of luck.

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Q: So when I reach age 18 I have all the rights of an adult under Illinois law?

A: Yes, except for the right to drink alcoholic beverages.

http://www.illinoislawyerfinder.com/publicinfo/adult.shtml

[rose1213]

i would really really appreciate it if i could get some more positive feedback

[CMLANDLORD]

How much more positive can it get? You're going to be 18 and legally an adult. Its great you plan to further your education. You need to keep in mind once you leave your mom's residence, nothing is "free" anymore. You will have bills to pay and plenty of them.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by rose1213

i would really really appreciate it if i could get some more positive feedback

okay...i did it at 18. i survived. got a job, had some kids, got married, had some more kids. enjoying my life.

my sister did it at 18. she is now touring the UK. AND ENJOYING EVERY MINUTE OF IT!!!

both positive stories.

wish you lots of luck!!

[LdiJ]

Ok...now that you have gotten the factual legal advice...I am going to throw some other thoughts your way.

If you are pregnant, and the baby is born in your boyfriends home state, then if it doesn't work out between you and him, you probably won't be able to move back home to your mother's house with the baby.

If you already have a baby with your boyfriend, if you move to his state, and stay there more than 6 months, and it doesn't work out, again, you probably won't be able to move back home to your mother's house with the baby.

If you move mid semester, you will probably lose a semester's worth of credits and it will take longer, and be harder for you to graduate from high school, let alone go to college.

If you expect life to be easier at your boyfriend's mother's house odds are that you will be wrong.

Nevertheless, at 18 you will be a legal adult and will be able to do as you please.

[rose1213]

okay, i would like to clear a few things up
1. my boyfriend doesn't even live with his mom, he lives 9 hours away from her
2.I WANT TO WORK! i've wanted to work since i was 16 and my mom has told me no, because she says it will give me to much freedom, i asked her if i could get a job when i turn 18 and she said absolutely not because she "said so"
3. i am an A+ student with a 4.0 GPA i'm in the national honors society, i'm ranked top in my graduating class, i've never been in any trouble at all, not at school or anything
4. I'm not going down there to "Shack up" as someone put it
5.My mom also won't let me get my driver's liscense and she said as long as i'm in her house i can't have my liscense
6. my mom is not a nut case but she is so protective of me that she won't even let me go out in my back yard without asking,(by the way i live in a small town, not some high crime city!) and i have NEVER been able to go to a friends house or a birthday party or anything like that EVER, the only thing that i am allowed to do is go to school and church. (she won't even let me go on youth group outings!!!!!!!!!)
7.she recently let her best friend and their 3 kids move into our house and they are staying in my room, and she says that they are her top priority
8.i'm not doing this to be rebelious, i'm doing it so i don't go crazy!
9. i've already been accepted to a big university in missouri and i have scholorships up the wazoo because of my high AC scores and my grades

just thought i should clarify that
p.s. i'm not pregnant nor do i intend to be pregnant any time soon

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by rose1213

okay, i would like to clear a few things up
1. my boyfriend doesn't even live with his mom, he lives 9 hours away from her
2.I WANT TO WORK! i've wanted to work since i was 16 and my mom has told me no, because she says it will give me to much freedom, i asked her if i could get a job when i turn 18 and she said absolutely not because she "said so"
3. i am an A+ student with a 4.0 GPA i'm in the national honors society, i'm ranked top in my graduating class, i've never been in any trouble at all, not at school or anything
4. I'm not going down there to "Shack up" as someone put it
5.My mom also won't let me get my driver's liscense and she said as long as i'm in her house i can't have my liscense
6. my mom is not a nut case but she is so protective of me that she won't even let me go out in my back yard without asking,(by the way i live in a small town, not some high crime city!) and i have NEVER been able to go to a friends house or a birthday party or anything like that EVER, the only thing that i am allowed to do is go to school and church. (she won't even let me go on youth group outings!!!!!!!!!)
7.she recently let her best friend and their 3 kids move into our house and they are staying in my room, and she says that they are her top priority
8.i'm not doing this to be rebelious, i'm doing it so i don't go crazy!
9. i've already been accepted to a big university in missouri and i have scholorships up the wazoo because of my high AC scores and my grades

just thought i should clarify that
p.s. i'm not pregnant nor do i intend to be pregnant any time soon

doesn't change anything sweetie. once you turn 18, that's it. you get to walk out that door. if you want ot go to Amsterdam or to Paris, you have the blessing of being an adult at the age of 18 to make the choice. no one's trying to talk you out of it.
go to the university, get great grades and have a fantastic life.

[LdiJ]

Originally Posted by IsabellaSoriano

doesn't change anything sweetie. once you turn 18, that's it. you get to walk out that door. if you want ot go to Amsterdam or to Paris, you have the blessing of being an adult at the age of 18 to make the choice. no one's trying to talk you out of it.
go to the university, get great grades and have a fantastic life.

I agree, we just wanted to make sure that you covered all of your bases. Good luck to you with everything.