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Old 04-28-2008, 03:59 PM
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My daughters boyfriend.

What is the name of your state? PA
My daughter has herself a new "boy"friend. She will be 14 in June, He will be 18 in July. My daughter is a virgin and does not like to see or hear about sexual activities. She is serious about saving herself. He is a really nice boy and I do not think he would ever try anything, besides that, they don't go on dates. They do stuff with me & my husband. I don't allow them the opportunity to be alone, but I trust them both. I have primary custody of my daughter. I want to know if any one can get into legal trouble before he turns 18, with no sexual acts involved, just hugs, holdong hands, kissing (pecks, because my daughter will not kiss open mouth it is disqusting). When he turns 18 can anyone get into any legal trouble as long as their is no sexual acts involved. As of now, I don't see any problem and it has only been a week, the chances of it lasting long is slim, but I do not know what the laws are, what is allowed, what is not. Could someone please help clear things up for me hopefully in words I can understand. Thank You
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Old 04-28-2008, 04:13 PM
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Could someone please help clear things up for me hopefully in words I can understand. Thank You
I can try -

Why in the WORLD would you let your 13 year old daughter have a 17 year old boyfriend???
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Old 04-28-2008, 04:15 PM
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What is the name of your state? PA
I have primary custody of my daughter
Not for long....
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Old 04-28-2008, 04:27 PM
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not for long what??? I don't understand, baystategirl.????
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Old 04-28-2008, 04:32 PM
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not for long what??? I don't understand, baystategirl.????
You will not retain PC if you continue with this really bad judgment. Really...What can you be thinking of?? Allowing your 13 year old daughter to date a 17 year old? If Dad were posting here I would advise him to seek custody based on your really poor parenting choices.
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Old 04-28-2008, 05:22 PM
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Your 13 year old is too young to have a boyfriend.

The 17 year old should be associating with kids his own age.

The handholding and kissing is totally innappropriate.

Do not allow your barely teenage daughters 'friendships' to become sexualized. Help her focus on age appropriate activities with girls whos familys value childhood and are not setting poor examples in any way. Protect your daughter.

I commend you for supervising them at all times. You worry me though, do not trust them to not do more just because your daughter is seems firm to you about wanting to stay virgin or finding kissing gross. A child often says exactly what a parent hopes to her. She is vulnerable to her own and his curiosity and bodily responses to the close contact you are already allowing.

You need to set better standards for her than this or your 13 year olds childhood will be over by 14. Please stop allowing this kind of contact and seek some parenting classes and counseling for yourselves. Your daughter and her boyfriend should not be setting the standards for your home, you should be and you need to set them higher than this.

Guide you daughter to be involved in activities that do not sexualize her and that help her build skills and explore interests like music, arts, sports, etc. or that help her start thinking of jobs she might one day take on.
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Old 04-28-2008, 08:09 PM
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You are all wrong. This is a parenting choice and what is being described is NOT illegal. Not necessarily what anyone would decide but not illegal.
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Old 04-29-2008, 01:03 AM
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You are all wrong.
WADR - I never said anything about the legality of it
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Old 04-29-2008, 09:25 AM
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WADR - I never said anything about the legality of it
Okay you were not wrong. YOu were asking a question due to puzzlement.
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Old 04-29-2008, 09:55 AM
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Okay you were not wrong. YOu were asking a question due to puzzlement.
I guess it was me that was wrong...
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