My marine husband has a gf..need advice pls

[scorpiogurl]

What is the name of your state? Hi! I'm from Manila, Philippines. I would like to know what should I do with my husband committing adultery. He is an american, he is a marine working at Camp Pendleton California. I'm here in the philippines right now. We've been married for almost 1 1/2 years yet he is not fixing my paperworks to get there in the states. I have done all my part for my papers but he is not cooperating, I mean is that he is not doing his part for the papers to get processed. I'm still waiting for him to submit the affidavit of support in which he is purposely delaying it. We got married March 17, 2004. He is not sending me any money or support since we got married. He always tells me he has no money. He gets BAH. but he denies it to me. He just wants all the money for himself. Right now I found out that he has a girlfriend she is a military police. This is what I cannot accept anymore. I love him but this is really humiliating for me. His friends knows that his married but they also know that he has a gf. I want to know if anyone can give me some advice of what I should do/ what is the right thing to do. I just want to be able to get what is right for me as his legal wife. I don't know who to complain to with what my husband is treating me. I feel helpless. Please help me. Thank you!

[tigger22472]

You have the right to get a divorce, that's about it. You can't force him to fill out the paperwork, you can't make him be faithful to him. You will receive nothing as you have not been married long enough for anything, however, in the meantime he's receiving his BAH.

[TLWE]

Absent any court orders, soldiers are required to follow the military rules of support. As his spouse, you are his dependent and a certain amount of financial support is required of him. You need to go to the nearest base and file a non-support complaint with the Judge Advocate Division.

You don't say how long you have lived apart. Regulations state that if you have been separated for 12 months or longer; financial support requirements may be reduced or eliminated.

Since he has made no effort to take care of the necessary paperwork for you to join him, it doesn't appear he intends to remain married to you. If the 2 of you divorce, you will no longer be entitled to any dependent benefits. Ex: BX/PX or commisary privileges, Tricare/CHAMPUS, etc. Also, you haven't been married long enough to be entitled to any of his retirement in the future.

[scorpiogurl]

Manila, Phils. Thank you for your advices.=) I appreciate it very much! I want to file divorce. I don't care that much about the money. But getting money is a plus but I'm not expecting at all. I just don't want him getting money because of me. but that is what is happening right now. You know, I think he will not file divorce because he is getting money by being married. He is getting extra money. He will keep on delaying it just like what he is doing with my papers with the INS. What else can I do if that happens? and also we don't have divoirce here in the phils. we only have annulment here. there are different laws about divorce in California too, right? 'cause I'm here in the phils. But I doubt it if he will file divorce against me..He is getting more money out of me. Right now he does not answer my calls and he does not call me since I told him I want a divorce. Is it okay If I send a letter to his commanding officer and complain about him having a gf and not giving me financial support since the start? I'm just scared. I really want to complain for all that he has done to me. He humiliated me to my family, my friends and his family. What is the right thing to do? I don't want to stay married to him while he is getting more money and he's having a good time with it with his gf. Does the marines really care with this kind of problems? I just want my single status back. Do u know any website for spouses who are being mistreated by their marine husbands? Thank you again! God bless to u all!