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04-30-2007, 09:22 PM
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| |  My sister married a BUM!!!(Help)
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My sister married a bum who always said he would get a job, but never did. After having 2 children, my sister got a good job and supported the family while he took the Mr. Mom role. He always said he would get a job, but never got more then some side work here and there. Now after 6 years or so, my sister caught him talking to other woman on the internet and threw him out of the house. My sister was recently diagnosed with "lupis." I think that is how you spell it. With all of this to deal with, now he doesn't want to support the kids, AND HE WANTS HER TO SUPPORT HIM!! You could only imagine what is running through my mind, being her brother. My sister spoke to a lawyer and he told her, because she supported him all this time, legally, she could be forced to support him. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship, and she has paid his child support all these years, and was told she might have to continue to pay for him. I'm ready to kill this guy, and i just don't know what to do......Any help or advice would be highly appreciated, before i do something crazy.   |
04-30-2007, 09:28 PM
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| | | Oh, and also, i suggested she take the kids and move away. But, the problem with that is the house they live in is my sisters house, and he did illegal renovations that won't allow her to sell. They've discussed moving to Florida, and he was supposed to make these renovations before they could sell, but instead of working on the house, he spent his time on the internet signing up on sites like match.com, while she was at work!!! He is so Jerry Springer!!HELP!!! |
04-30-2007, 09:31 PM
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Originally Posted by deezal  New York
My sister married a bum who always said he would get a job, but never did. After having 2 children, my sister got a good job and supported the family while he took the Mr. Mom role. He always said he would get a job, but never got more then some side work here and there. Now after 6 years or so, my sister caught him talking to other woman on the internet and threw him out of the house. My sister was recently diagnosed with "lupis." I think that is how you spell it. With all of this to deal with, now he doesn't want to support the kids, AND HE WANTS HER TO SUPPORT HIM!! You could only imagine what is running through my mind, being her brother. My sister spoke to a lawyer and he told her, because she supported him all this time, legally, she could be forced to support him. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship, and she has paid his child support all these years, and was told she might have to continue to pay for him. I'm ready to kill this guy, and i just don't know what to do......Any help or advice would be highly appreciated, before i do something crazy. |
They were married for 6 years? IF she was ordered to pay SS if would be very short term, and I have never heard of an ex wife being court ordered to pay child support to her ex husbands children for him. Who told her this?
She was foolish to pay it for him for the last 6 years...perhaps if she hadn't he would have gotten a job after he was jailed the first time for contempt of court.
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04-30-2007, 09:36 PM
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| | She wasn't ordered to pay it, she was just a moron. But can she really be forced to continue supporting him??  |
04-30-2007, 09:43 PM
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| | I build websites and was thinking of doing a "Johndoeisabum.com." Posting his picture and the whole story. I know this is childish, but i'm losing my mind a bit right now.....  |
04-30-2007, 09:59 PM
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Originally Posted by deezal I build websites and was thinking of doing a "Johndoeisabum.com." Posting his picture and the whole story. I know this is childish, but i'm losing my mind a bit right now..... |
If you really want to help your sister, help her hire a good attorney. |
05-01-2007, 07:38 AM
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Originally Posted by deezal Oh, and also, i suggested she take the kids and move away. But, the problem with that is the house they live in is my sisters house, and he did illegal renovations that won't allow her to sell. They've discussed moving to Florida, and he was supposed to make these renovations before they could sell, but instead of working on the house, he spent his time on the internet signing up on sites like match.com, while she was at work!!! He is so Jerry Springer!!HELP!!! | And if she did take the kids and move away, dad can march in to court and petition for the children to be returned to him asap.
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