need advice asap

The mother of my husband's child keeps telling people, including my husband, that I make threats against her child, (have NEVER, nor will ever), and countless other derogatory remarks. She's very spiteful, and refuses him visitation. She has told him if he pursues visits, she will have us reported for abuse should a judge grant him visitation.
She doesn't know me, nor has ever tried to hold a conversation with me. I feel awful because my husband feels that he should just continue to pay support, and let his daughter find him when she's old enough to want to know who her father is. Going through hell with this woman is just not worth the agony she has caused. I want to know if I can file something against her for slander, or defamation of character. It infuriates me that this person whom I've never talked to, can say such hateful things about my character, and continue to get away with it! I know that when I married my husband, he had a child that came with the deal, but I never had any idea we would have to go through this!!!!! Please help.

No actually he should stop paying support**************..

NO vists no support and let the child deal with that fact that the mom is a lunatic.


Why not agree not to have any vistation, have your hubby sign an agreement to that effect and no support either.

she will back down if she knows the money will stop flowing.

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DO NOT STOP SUPPORT!!!!!! Support and visitation are TWO separate issues and you will get yourself in trouble for it. She also has to have a good reason to stop visitation but would have to get a court order so she is in violation. Have your husband take her to court for contempt.