What is the name of your state? Ohio/Utah
I currently live in Utah because of a job transfer -my husband's ex-wife lives in Ohio. My husband has paid alimony (half of his income) to his ex for the last 5 years and has 3 more years to go according to divorce agreement (otherwise, alimony ends when she re-marries). In the divorce, she got the house and everything in it, the cars, all of the bank account monies, except for what my husband needed to pay his attorney. My husband got away with the clothes on his back. This is an indication of how the Ohio courts work. I came along into my husband's life well after their divorce. It was his business before we got together so up until my personal problem with his ex I have been completely out of it. They were married for 15 years and she never worked. She is an alcoholic/prescription drug abuser and will probably never be of value to society. She has sued several people/businesses since the divorce in order to gain income (was awarded $25K on last case in '01). As far as we know, she has not attempted to find steady employment -she's looking to sue to get money, and my husband is the current target. She has been badgering HR departments at my husband’s former employer and also his current employer to find out how she can get a piece of his retirement and/or become beneficiary of the 401K’s. She has subtly threatened the employers stating that she could sue them to become beneficiary, but is asking that they do it “the easy way.” She thinks she can make it happen without my husband’s knowledge. She has also been inquiring about his salary and potential bonuses. Additionally, she and I both have the same name, and she has recently impersonated me in attempts to gain financial information about my husband and me, as a credit card company informed us. This is customary behavior for her. I already had one lawyer stop her in her tracks about a year and a half ago with a cease and desist letter after she telephoned my parents and harassed them when she found out her ex-husband was re-marrying (almost 4 yrs after their divorce -they were separated for two years prior to that); and for impersonating me with the airlines trying to cancel flights arranged for my job. I’ve been forced to use a special code word with the airlines to manage my travel for work. As far as I know, she immediately stopped calls to my parents and the impersonating behavior after receiving the cease and desist letter. Recently, I called a couple lawyers to see what I can do to protect our assets. She could take him back to court for more support if she thought he was making more money at his relatively new job, but I'm certain that at that court hearing, she would tack on being beneficiary of basically everything of his, plus whatever else is in her head. Of course, another cease and desist letter came to my mind. One attorney said there is nothing I can do and it’s none of my business whatever method she chooses to pursue him. I disagree that my husband’s income and his designation of beneficiary is not my business, and her seeking out my immediate family for income is not my business, and her impersonating me is not my business. But that’s why I’m writing this, because often times when things are not “fair” they are still unfortunately “legal.” Regarding my situation, I’m not sure. Is there anything we can do to stop her inquisition on our finances and this harassment –like behavior? My husband and I are somewhat “traditional” in that we put EVERYTHING in HIS name, including all bank accounts and even the title to the car I drive. Personally, I prefer it that way, but this situation is making me wonder. Would it help at all if I move all of our assets into accounts with my name only? What about when we buy a house next summer? Can she get that if the house is in both my husband’s and my name? We don’t really want to take her to court, but if SHE goes that route, we want to be protected.