Nightmare - Abuse

[Kevin_the_faran]

Washington State

She owned house for 6 years, she paid for 4 years, I paid for 2 years after moving in.
(Thus, she made 2/3 of the payments, I made 1/3 of the payments)

She purchased house for 160k sold house for 307k (150k profit)
I did not ask for 1/3 (50k) ...I didn't ask for anything.

She took me to Asia to meet her family, was supose to be 2 weeks family time and
4 weeks vacation time. Once there the plan was changed without my knowledge or concent, I spent a month on a Thai farm deep in the interior in the middle of no where, they would not tell me when we were leaving or even translate for me. She would not give me my plane ticket or pass port, and she had all the money I felt kidnapped, seriously, and began to fear them all, the relationship plumeted from there.

I said "if you don't take me to a city now, I'm going to leave you, if I ever get out of here" They all basically said, "Up to you, she needed you when you make the house payments but now she sold house, not need you anymore"

She was born in Asia, but is a US citizen now.

To my relief we finally get back to USA, and I find out my dog was put down in the pound, her brother was supose to be taking care of it, but it got lose, and he would not pay to get it out of the pound. Her daughter was losing her house and needed a place to stay, and our relationship by then was bitter, she told me to get out to make room for her daughter and her daughter's child.

I had quit my job to go to Asia with her, I had no job and told her I need a 30 day notice.
She went to some court and got a restraining order to get around the 30 day notice.
I was removed from my place of residence without notice, with no job, and thrown into the streets, in the winter time.

10 days later (today) I went to the hearing, and I learn the restraining order was granted because she said I often pointed my pistol at her, the kids, and the dog.

It was pure lie, I have no history of violence in my 40+ years on earth, no criminal record what-so-ever, but now, I will have this lie on my record? Yes? No? ...Anyway I've had enough.

Is there anything I can do? Do I have any rights?

Can I at least sue for damages or something?
Can I at least get the lie tarnish off my otherwise good record?
Oh, one more thing, we were never legally married. House was in her name.

Semi-off topic...
Also I have been hearing some other things about them, having purgered themselves in court, in the past. Her sister in law was having an affair, wittnessed by her daughter, whom told her mother (restraining order lying plaintiff) whom then confronted her sister in law, whom then threatened to take half of her brother's everything if there was a divorce, and suddenly a plan was hatched, wherein charges of rape were made against the romeo, so the marriage could survive, and I am told the daughter testified at that rape trial, uh? but not to what she saw, and on orders by her mother, basically lied and a man was charged with rape, though I am unsure of the results of that case.

I was trying to dig up anything to discredit her credibility.
but it was only bits and pieces I got. I know there was a trial though.


Kevin

[LdiJ]

If you were never married to her, and the house was never in your name, then you have absolutely no rights at all. You basically were a tenant for two years.

Move on with your life, and consider this a lesson learned.

[Dumbhubby]

ohhhhhh the good 'ol feminine restraining order strategy. Courts give them out like candy.
Yeah just move on dude. Nothing you can do here. Once she walked into the court room you had absolutely no chance since she is automatically a victim given she is a woman and you had no lawyer.

[Kevin_the_faran]

so you're saying, if I had a lawyer with me
things could have been different?

Also can I not sue for defermation of charactor?
As if my spelling doesn't do that all by itself?

[baystategirl]

Originally Posted by Kevin_the_faran

so you're saying, if I had a lawyer with me
things could have been different?

Also can I not sue for defermation of charactor?
As if my spelling doesn't do that all by itself?

ROTFL!! Good job on keeping your sence of humor...

Sorry, I have no advice for your situation except to agree with the others...

[hateworking]

Originally Posted by Kevin_the_faran

so you're saying, if I had a lawyer with me
things could have been different?

Also can I not sue for defermation of charactor?
As if my spelling doesn't do that all by itself?

Defamation of character?? LOL Next will you suggest "slander"? ROFLMFAO. Order is decreed and it stays.
Dude, listen. She is a female. Understand that, ok? No judge will deny a restraining order knowing all the political nonsense he/she will receive from women's groups, ect.
OF COURSE you need a lawyer. And dont think the judge will feel sorry for you because you cant afford one. I guess there were weapons in the house? I would say you might have had a trickle of a chance if you DID NOT have a gun in the house, but looks like you did since this was a no contest..
Like I said you lost before you entered the courtroom. Now the only way this order can be lifted if she agrees to. I hate to be this way, but it is what it is. Any woman can goto any jurisdiction in the USA and get one of these orders no matter of their primary residence. They can statet ANYTHING they want down and a temporary one WILL be granted. There is a chance it will be denied, but you WILL be occupied for 10-14 days, straining time with lawyers and money, and have to show up to court.
Amazing, aint it?

[Kevin_the_faran]

Okay but, does this thing stay on my record? Forever?
Also did I mention she needed the room for her daughter
who just lost her house?

The loss of the house is documented, the daughter is there
now, it was her way of getting around a 30 day notice when
she wanted me out to make room for her daughter.

The judge said the acusations were serious and extended
the restraining order for 12 months. So I need a lawyer
for....?
I mean I never want to move back in with her or see her
again for all I care, but, I have all my stuff there and I mean
a week or so just loading my pick up truck once a day (short bed)
and I have to call the cops to escort me each time I go to get
my things, they will surely tire of that.

But if I get a lawyer, they can do what for me now? Remove it
from my record?

Thanks.

[Dumbhubby]

Like I said the restraining order can only be removed if the female wants it to, since it's already decreed. I guess you can appeal, but you will need an attorney to get advice on that.
The restraining order is a civil offense, not criminal, so I wouldnt wory about a record. But again speak to an attorney on that.
Also, you might want to inquire about police escorts while moving your stuff out. I know my police dept woulnt do it as I would have to hire a cop off duty.