No good deed goes unpunished!

[Entirely2Kind]

What is the name of your state? WA

In short, I purchased a car for my girl-friend and I to use... out of haste (and some ill-placed trust), her name was placed on the title. Now, we are separating and she told me that since the car is in her name... it is hers! Is there anything I can do?

The long winded story is this... I met a girl in WA whom was from MA. We started out as most tend to... and I thought it might work out.

She had earlier been forced to leave her university in MA to have a child, and wanted to return to complete her schooling so I funded the remaining schooling and living expenses 'till she graduated (three quarters).

She then returned to WA, but things didn't work out so well so she returned to MA.

Shortly afterwards, things turned sour for her and she contacted me for help so I paid for an apartment for her and began flying out to see her every month, and I thought things might get better.

During the winter before she was to move back out to WA, she crashed her car and needed a new one. I didn't have the money to help her at the time so I took out a home-loan and sent her the money.

She later moved back out to WA and, as I suppose could have been predicted, things went sour again.

Now, she wants to move back to MA and take with her the car (which I still am paying for)! She told me that since the title is in her name that it is hers and there's nothing I can do but keep up the payments and wave it goodbye!

Clearly, I'd like to cut my losses here and not pay anything more into this... is there anything I can do?

Thanks!What is the name of your state?

[ceara19]

Unfortunately, she's right. You could try to recoup some of the money by suing her. However, you would have to prove that the money was a loan and not a gift.

[Entirely2Kind]

While there's no question I can prove that the money came from a loan, I wonder how I can prove that it wasn't a gift to her?

She already told me that she was going to say it was a gift... clearly it wasn't, as there was not only no precident, but also... I'm in no place to be giving $40,000 gifts!

I'm feeling rather used, of course... and expectedly rather angry... is there any hope?

Thanks!

[blackwater]

Man you did what, why the BMW. should have sent money for a Ford focus. I have some what the same thing going on.
Paper trails, how did you send the money? did you put it in her account, get the record pulled,courts can do it. Money order, she had to sign. that will only show transaction.

Originally Posted by Entirely2Kind

While there's no question I can prove that the money came from a loan, I wonder how I can prove that it wasn't a gift to her?

She already told me that she was going to say it was a gift... clearly it wasn't, as there was not only no precident, but also... I'm in no place to be giving $40,000 gifts!

I'm feeling rather used, of course... and expectedly rather angry... is there any hope?

Thanks!

[moburkes]

Originally Posted by blackwater

Man you did what, why the BMW. should have sent money for a Ford focus. I have some what the same thing going on.
Paper trails, how did you send the money? did you put it in her account, get the record pulled,courts can do it. Money order, she had to sign. that will only show transaction.

What are you talking about? Do you even read what you write, before you submit it? Dumb question, I know.

OP: The easy way to prove that it wasn't a gift WAS by not allowing her to title the vehicle. Based on your story, you've given (think "gift") this person so much money (apartment, tuition, living expenses, vehicle) that it will be to say AFTER YOU'VE BROKEN UP that it wasn't a gift.

[ceara19]

Originally Posted by blackwater

Man you did what, why the BMW. should have sent money for a Ford focus. I have some what the same thing going on.
Paper trails, how did you send the money? did you put it in her account, get the record pulled,courts can do it. Money order, she had to sign. that will only show transaction.

Now you're making an ass out of yourself on TWO threads.