Not the daddy!!

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Michigan
My husband has a daughter from a previous girlfriend(never married). She(the daughter) has HIS last name. The ex was pregnant when I first met him, and claimed the baby was his. After paternity tests confirmed it was NOT, this child still has his last name?? That's what she put on the birth certificate I guess? What can be done about this, does anyone know???

Lady, with all the problems in the world this issue is waaay down on the list.

YOU have nothing to say about this. Period.

[VeronicaGia]

She can name the child anything she wants. If she wants the childs name to be Mickey Mouse, so be it. Stop worrying about it and move on.

You can't tell me that it wouldn't bother you just a little bit that this woman your husband has a child with has named her other illegitimate baby the same last name b/c she thought for sure he was the father but was wrong?? She should change it! It's a matter of principle! Now that it's my last name too, I don't want it dragged through the mud so some skanky lady can pretend both her kids are not from different dads? There are lots of other issues as well, I simply wanted to know if anyone knew the legality of any of this!

[nextwife]

Good grief, if he is NOT the legal father, she and the child have NOTHING to do with you. You can't claim sole rights to use a given last name. There's LOTS of folks out there whose kids have the same last name as my husband (and now myself). And no, it doesn't bother me.

If this is not legally his child, and was not or cannot be proven his by DNA testing, then what they do is irrelevant to you or he.

"Fa git about it!"

It's way different than two people who happen to be named Smith! I think it's almost harassing in a way, I'm going to give this kid your last name b/c I want to pretend I have a little family! Where's the real daddy!!? It's just irritating b/c his other daughter has his last name and I feel that they should be distinct from each other. It's not like he was ever married to the "baby momma" either.

[stealth2]

Legally, he can do nothing about it. Period, end of story.

This is a judgmental mean place!

This is a judgmental mean place!

It's way different . . .b/c I want to pretend I have a little family! Where's the real daddy!!? It's just irritating b/c his other daughter has his last name and I feel that they should be distinct from each other. It's not like he was ever married to the "baby momma" either.

You can't tell me that it wouldn't bother you just a little bit that this woman your husband has a child with has named her other illegitimate baby the same last name b/c she thought for sure he was the father but was wrong?? She should change it! It's a matter of principle! Now that it's my last name too, I don't want it dragged through the mud so some skanky lady can pretend both her kids are not from different dads? There are lots of other issues as well, I simply wanted to know if anyone knew the legality of any of this!

No. You just wanted to hear that she couldn't do it.

Why do you have a problem with both kids having the same last name? You sound spiteful, vindictive, petty and judgemental.

Look in the mirror and you will see a "mean judgemental" face .

i have a problem with them having the same last name because they dont have the same dad!!! and the last name that they have is my husbands!! That's not right! I'll admit to petty, but someone needs to admit that it's not right to give a kid someone else's dad's last name and the kid doesn't even know who it's real father is??

[stealth2]

Oh brother. I wish I had such petty things to worry about.